My children are court ordered to see there father.My youngest daughter is scared of him and cries and he still makes her go.I have called social services and they dont think there is any reason to investigate.Then in september she fell off the monkey bars at the park in his care and had to have 3 surgeries. The dr said she would never be able to straighten out her arm again. Well her father pulled it out straight, causing it to pop.I called social services and they said there was no reason to investigate.I called her dr.. andhe said it wasnt nessasary to bring her in because it wasnt mis shapened or hurting.I am so frustrated and worried about my daughters.But no one seems to listen or care.I dont want anything else to happen!And I refused to let them visit over christmas.So I figure I will be getting a court notice soon..possibly contempt.Do You think I am over reacting?
2007-01-02 06:07:46 · 7 answers · asked by laurancarolina 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Myself, I would take him back to court to modify visitations. You as a Mother and knowing your children like you do, you know there is a reason for you being so Leary of your ex. The child doesn't cry for no reason. I would go to anyone and everyone that would listen to me. Your child's safety should come first above all else. I know this is hard on you, do what is right and it can't go wrong. Good Luck, and I just said a prayer for you and your children.
2007-01-02 06:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you should have done was gone back to court to request that the visitation order be modified. But by withholding visitation, you are in contempt of court. If he takes you to court, the fact that social services does not feel there’s a valid reason to investigate is likely going to work in his favor. The fact that she cries doesn’t mean much (it could simply mean that she’s overly attached to you or that she’s picking up on *your* feelings). The fact that she fell while in his care doesn’t mean much (she have just as easily have fallen while in your care). The fact that he pulled her arm out straight means he’s stupid, but beyond that…she wasn’t harmed by it obviously. You need to rethink how you’re handling this because in my opinion, you’re hurting your case and helping his. Go back to court instead of ignoring the court order.
2007-01-02 15:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that maybe it was an accident, but the fact that your daughter is frightened says loads. So no, I don't think you are overreacting. Be careful about withholding visitation. It can bite you in the behind. Before you know it you are accused of being an "alienator" and you will lose custody. Question: did he abuse you? That's one of the best indicators of child abuse.
Here is a really good site for moms having to deal with abusers.
Custody Prep for Moms
http://www.custodyprepformoms.org/
2007-01-02 14:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Are they scared of him because of the things you say and do in regards to him? It doesn't sound like they've told you "Daddy beat me" or anything. Kids have accidents, they fall and break things. Dad was just trying to help... my mother made me wait three days before taking me to the ER with a broken wrist and she is an RN!! Sometimes parents are just stupid. I think you should make more of an effort to help your daughters adjust to being with their father... perhaps scheduling some mommy/daddy AND kid trips to the park... then the girls can see that daddy is nothing to be afraid of, mommy likes him just fine, and there isn't any reason to worry. As of now you have presented NOTHING that would indicate he is a bad, abusive, or neglectful father. I would re-evaluate where you are coming from and realize that until he is proven to be the horrible person you think he is he IS their father. Next time choose better.
2007-01-02 14:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand how you feel having watched my step-daughter's father pull a lot of the same garbage over the last 18 months.
Long and short is although no I don't think you over-reacted, you cannot ignore your court-ordered visitation schedule without realizing it may benefit your ex-husband and hurt you and your kids in the long-run.
Unless you have DIRECT and CONCRETE knowledge that delivering your children to your ex on scheduled visitation will put the kids in harm's way, you cannot deny him court-ordered visibility.
2007-01-02 14:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by JSpielfogel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
According to Law yes you are if you really feel as if your children are in danger the child service will investigate you just have to make your point well know....go to the judge and tell him that you are in fear for your daughters well being when you let them go with him and would like to have an investigation done and be sure to get your lawyer involved
2007-01-02 14:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How would you feel if he had the kids and would not let you see them eh?
2007-01-02 14:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by MC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋