what am i going to do
2007-01-02 05:57:25 · 22 answers · asked by Princess A 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
1st take a deep breath! Keep a clear mind although it seems hard to do right now. Do not let anyone talk you into something you are not willing to do. You need to tell the daddy first. If he bails on you hes still responsible for the child. Next talk with your mom. Let her know you may have disappointed her but remind her your life isnt ruined either. Get some prenatal care. Keep in mind miscarriage is high due to your body not being fully developed. Try and see if you can find an OB that practices in teen pregnancy. They will have resource information available to you. Good luck and remember there are families that will love the baby if you choose adoption. You are not giving your child up but rather giving your child a chance. Mom who almost gave up her first for adoption by family pressure.
2007-01-02 08:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by novembersnow78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a long raod ahead of you. There are many things you should be doing.
Both of you need to talk to your parents
Focus on school
Get a job after school
Start thinking about look in to DHS Food stamps, WIC formula, Section 8 Housing. Its a good time to get on a list for daycare, see what you high school has to offer. Or there is adoption out there. A lot of days the grandparents adopt the child. Your parents or his. And then you and daddy stay activie in the babies life.
Time to start reading books about babies and teenage parenting.
I would call a doctor. Take vitamins and eat right.
There are a lot of online parents site you should check out.
14 its going to be hard. Once its all done and you have the baby. Make sure you use protection or focus on school, and your famly.
Chances are you two the guy wont end up together but if you love each other do your best. Dont fight pick your battles.
You have to grow up real fast and give up a lot. Its not about going out with friends any more. No more football games or hangout at the Mall. Thats not far to the baby.
As you go on with the pregnancy grage sales are great for furniture and clothes. You may want to look in to that. Start a diaper fund. Keep a Wal-Mart card just for diapers.
Have a back up plan for babysitting just in case.
Your an adult now...your having a baby. Make the right choices.
No matter what any ones tells you
YOUR PARENTS CANT MAKE YOU ABORT THE BABY.
Its a sweet little life and its your choice to have the baby and take care of him or her. Or adoption
THE FUN PART
20 WEEKS YOU CAN FIND OUT THE GENDER
START THINKING ABOUT NAMES
2007-01-02 08:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to have the baby and take care of it for a few months to see what it's really like. That means, YOU get up in the middle of the night 6 times a night to feed, and YOU change all diapers, etc, no putting it on your parents. That will motivate you to not have sex for a while, until you are old enough and mature enough, and hopefully married before you do it again. I've had two, and the workload involved is definitely an eye opener! Then after you take care of him or her a while, it would probably be best to give up the baby for adoption. You simply cannot take care of the baby yet, and that baby deserves a chance to live, and not pay for your mistake, so don't get an abortion. Just give him or her up for adoption. And please, don't make that mistake again. You are waaaayyyy too young to have any sex at all.
2007-01-02 10:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are underage, and if your parents do find out, he can be charged and arrested for statutory rape, whether he meant it or not. Secondly, you're barely a child, why are you with a 17 year old? That's against the law, and if found out, he can be put in prison. Thirdly, you fell for the OLDEST trick in the book. NEVER have unprotected sex unless you actually want a baby. For HIM it feels better, because condoms basically knock all feeling and pleasure out of sex. However, YOU feel it. And now, you have to suffer, and make the decision of what you're planning on doing. Lastly, your parents were keeping you away from him for a reason! And from your ignorance of being responsible, and abiding your parents, you're pregnant, against the law, and you're young. Buck up your ideas, speak to the, because either way you can't do this alone! Best of luck.
2016-05-23 06:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't have an abortion. Tell your parents, talk to the guy. He may not be very helpful at first, every guy reacts in his own way.
Find out what your options are. If you don't think you could raise the child, put it up for adoption. Stay in school, unless you get a tutor or homeschooling. Look at this site, it should help a lot.
Also, try abstinence. It works.
2007-01-02 07:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by the_blue_violinist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
♥ do what feels right first tell your parents and tell them to support you second dont leave school when you give birth stay at home for about 2 weeks and then if noone is willing to take care of your baby take him to a daycare third finish your school and tell the boy to give you some support
2007-01-02 09:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by caitlyn_so_fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down. Just tell the parent you are most comfortable telling. Im sure that they wont be as mad. And if you dont want it get an abotion, if that oarent is willing on paying.
2007-01-02 08:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lil' Evi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your 14 you should get help immidiatly weather you are keeping the baby or not if the guy is not supporting you dont count on him at all talk to ur parents they will support you do not
2007-01-02 10:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by whannabefree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate yourself for being a slutty whore.
Seriously, when is everyone going to learn? It is not hard to put a condom on.
Have someone help you tell your parents and look into adoption.
2007-01-02 12:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sarcasm Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless he raped you, you should have known better. Tell your parents for one, start asking the guy if he wants a seriouse relationship, and decide if you are gonna raise the baby or not.
2007-01-02 07:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋