2007-01-02 05:30:30 · 12 answers · asked by marylittle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can try to talk to him about the abuse and see if he will go to therapy, but this has to happen quickly. If he will not or does not do either of the above, you have to get out of the relationship.
Abuse starts verbally and will escalate. You cannot just stay in the relationship because it is dangerous for you and he will break you down over time. It does not matter how strong you are. I saw one of the strongest women that I have ever known, brought to tears by a man who abused her and almost killed her and she was just on the telephone with him after she had divorced him. She had children with him and could not fully separate herself from him.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-02 05:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty, i was once a verbal abuser and honesty i wasnt at the time and still now looking back at it am i not proud of it. the reason i did it because i wasnt happy with myself and my x was the person to put the blame on. i learn this after i went to anger management and relationship sessions.
try to find out what is going on with ur hubby without fighting with him in a calm way try to discuss the problem and find out a resolution, also was he expose to verbal abuse while growing up that could also be a trigger
good luck and if he doesnt stop, just leave dont stand the abuse its not fair and u will be scar for life
2007-01-02 05:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be put through verbal nor physical abuse from their spouse. I have had abusive spouse who stabbed me and was constantly yelling and screaming at me making me feel so little. I had to get away from that. I am only 19 years old but I have dealt with abuse from my mother and two x boyfriends. I just recently got away from my mother and I left my x's shortly after they attacked me. I am not a very emotionally strong person but when I feel I have had enough, I had enough. The only reason why I stayed living with my mother was because of my younger siblings. What I think you should do is one of two things. Either go to counseling or leave him.
2007-01-02 06:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by Britney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To analyse the situation.Try to understand why he is abusing you.What makes him do so?After finding it out,would YOU be able to get what he want so that he would stop abusing you.If not then find some one that can give you what you want out of life.Donot make a spontanious decision of leaving him because he is bad.Have some facts in front of you.Do you have any children?I am not an expert in relationship but I do understand and have helped many people to set their life to hapiness by giving them what they want.If you may want to know further how to enhance your life towards hapiness,feel free to email me.I would be to your help without asking anything from you for sure.
2007-01-02 09:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Prakash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Trying to change an abuser is an exercise in futility; even counseling/therapy professionals will tell you that unless the abuser seeks them out of his/her own accord and acknowledges that he/she needs help, there is virtually no chance the abuser will ever change.
This is a helpful website:
http://drirene.com/
The pages about the abuser and the victim are especially useful:
http://drirene.com/abuserpages.htm
http://drirene.com/victimpages.htm
Check out the many things this site has to offer, and I'm sure you'll find it helps a lot.
Good luck.
2007-01-02 05:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbally abuse back to him and say "get the fk out" and then file for divorce and get on with your life. That's what I did and I am very happy that I did!
2007-01-02 05:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
verbal abuse is just as bad as physical. Your spirit becomes broken after hearing the negative thrown at you day after day.. get out before you have nothing left in yourself to believe in.
2007-01-02 05:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by georgia k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you will no longer put up with it! Either he participates in therapy to stop the abuse or you should leave him.
2007-01-02 05:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel. Sometimes people say things without realizing how much it hurts the other person. Get yourself and him into counseling -- find a pastor or professional counselor whom you feel you can trust and together work to build your trust back up.
2007-01-02 05:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave before it becomes physical- it always does.And then get therapy to figure out why your self-esteem was so low, you allowed someone to abuse you so it won't happen again.
2007-01-02 05:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋