My wife's private spot has gotten bigger in the pass year.she's a great wife and she takes care of the kids.she's a stay at home mom also.She just had a baby a year ago but it wasn't through vaginal. she also lost like 35 pounds in 2 months. I know my private hasn't change any. could it be cause by the rappid weight lost and her having a baby through cesarean.this is also her second child but her first child is 9 .sexally, its taking me a long time to reach an orgasm because i cant feel anything. she says and it sounds like she is getting hers. whenever we get finish having sex, i can litterally see a big hole that wasn't there years ago.the hole in her vagina.sorry if im being to drastic but i dont want to accuse her of cheating, she gets really mad and upset. so can somebody please help. only serrious inquiries.after she lost the wait she has been wanting sex alot and for the first time in awhile, i never had to ask for it. her cofidence level has gone up tremendously.
2007-01-02 05:28:28 · 10 answers · asked by black pharoahs of egypt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i appreciate all the honest answers. it really helped.
2007-01-02 06:43:16 · update #1
I would suspect that if your wife has lost so much weight that it is natural for there to be less fat "everywhere".However she may also be loosing muscle mass, the pelvic floor muscles including other muscles.If she is loosing too fast and not exercising or eating properlly she will loose muscle mass. Is she aware of the difference you are experiencing? It may be hard for you to tell her if she doesn't already know. She can strenghten the pelvic floor muscles and regain tone by doing kegal exercises. She should have been talked to by her ob/gyn about this during or after birth.Even though she had a c section. The pressure, weight and hormonal changes during pregnancy changes the muscles, ligaments and joints.It can take a year or longer to return to pre pregnancy changes. Kegal exercises do work. Not only are they good for the vagina but also for the bladdar which is affected by weak pelvic muscles. You mentioned that she has had an increased Labido if she is cheating it is most likely she would be distancing herself from you, most often this is the case. I would suggest discussing kegal exercises for both of you (yes men can benefit too) and use the rationale that you are having more sex so it will increase strength and circulation to increase satisfaction when you both have orgasms. If this doesn't work or if you are comfortable just be honest with her and have her see her ob/gyn she may have another problem. Good luck.
2007-01-02 05:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by aleiah126 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if your wife wants intercourse more ,and you don't. not saying ahe is cheating but if you both are not satisfying each other then eventually you can try ohter methods before it gets too late and you are both trying other people. your body also goes through alot of changes during pregnancy and after! you might just have to sit down and talk to her don't just go right now take a while and think about what and how you say it because you might come off a little offensive or accusing her of doing it. A women after she loses wieght she feels more sexier and feels alot more confident honestly so that could be the reason why too. keep a open positive mind before you jump to any serious conclusions.
2007-01-02 05:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is probably feeling sexy because of the weight loss and that gives a person confidence. So that probably explains her increased sexual desires. Also if she is in her early 30's she is probably coming into her sexual peak. Enjoy!
As far as the loose hole, that would not be caused by having sex with someone, it is a medical condition directly related to childbirth. Even if she had a section her pelvic bones and birthing canal would have gone through the same physical changes as if she had a natural birth.
2007-01-02 05:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You could higher a PI to investigate on your worries.Sometimes a girls body part change when they give birth. But not to scare you but rapid weight lost is a sign of her cheating on you. Also her sex drive can be out of balance. Ask yourself has she given you any reason to believe she's cheating and also has she done this to you before?
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-02 05:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by ivonne 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don,t think your wife is cheating.the weight lose has made the difference down there,also she is wanting sex more because she has lost weight and is feeling better about her body....If she were cheating she wouldnt be having sex with you...Why does ll men think their wife is cheating because she loses weight? I lose weight and I don,t cheat......Let up on your wife,i really don,t feel that she is cheating......
2007-01-02 07:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by slickcut 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would say she is. Most likely if you have the gut feeling, it's true. Always go with your first instinct no matter how sweet, caring, loving , etc. the person is. If she hasn't seen a doctor to rest the fact that she isn't cheating, then i hate to break the news, but she's cheating.
2007-01-02 05:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anika P 1 · 2⤊ 4⤋
from the look of things, she's seeing someone else who is also making her feel really good about herself. a change in sex drive is also known to be an indicator in a cheating spouse but not always. she may be continuously having sex w/ someone else who may be really large down there. however, you should look for other indicators of a cheating spouse.
2007-01-02 05:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Johnnie's cash🌴🌙☂✈ 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you are really this dumb and insensitive you don't deserve a wife or kids.
2007-01-02 05:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
She likes black guys so she went out a bought a huge black dildo and that's what's made it so big.
You need to find another chick, dude.
2007-01-02 05:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
make sure and hire an investigator.. that ight be just natural though
2007-01-02 05:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋