Can an emotional abuser hold a long term relationship? (2)?

Question

Thanks for the quick replies. He is an abuser because first he was so sweet and captured all my attention, and he said he was craving for love. When I gave him, a month after he tried to ban to speak with my family and tried to cut off my friend network who know me 10 years. I had one relationship lasting 8 and a half years and we are still good friends. He tried to belittle him and me in front of my friends. First, I thought he was kidding and since I loved him, I ignored them. He was my 2nd boyfriend. He told me stories about his father beating him with leather belt and I held his hand and I told him that those days are over and I had compassion for him. However after a while he started battering me and complained that I never make him a part of my life. No matter what I did, he did not like. He was flunk out of a very famous graduate school for something that happened him and his advisor. When he moved onto another guy, I felt really betrayed. Curious if he will be able to hold this

Answer 1

MOVE ON! Be glad you got out alive. You were in the midst of a slow, painful death--your own! That dude will never be happy if he keeps looking outside of himself rather hearing out the demon within, so he can heal. Good riddance, it wasn't you it was/is him.

Answer 2

Yes he'll have a relationship long term if he can find somebody stupid enough to put up with it. I just got out of an abusive relationship, and it's important to go while there's still some self esteem left. Abusers try to make everyone as miserable as they are.

Answer 3

Thats is very smart but how do you know its going to be long term? You cant fortell the future like that.. I think you should wait a few months.. If you guys are totally in love than go for it.. If you have sex before being in love than it could screw up things//... Good luck! Not having sex with your boyfriend n someone you care about very dearly is so hard!!! Because all you want to do is just show them how much you care for them..

Answer 4

Emotional/physical abusers can have long-term relationships with people who have low self esteem and believe they deserve the abuse (especially if they are not conscious of the fact).

If you are drawn to someone who has abused you, the abuser is not the only one who should seek psychological help.

Answer 5

This guy is a serious socipathic abuser. The vast majority of abusers are capable of being charming when they want--that's how the woo their victims. Then they try to play the pity game. Seriously, get counseling. It sounds like you need it.

Answer 6

This person obviously needs to partner with a masochist. If that is not the role you want, terminate your relaionship with 'abuser'. If you can't sever the relationship, and it gets dangerous - take legal action to keep him way from you.

Answer 7

Why would you subject yourself to this and waste your life with someone who abuses you? It takes 2 sick people to be in a sick relationship. If you stay, you're as sick as he is. You should find out why you have a problem, instead of worrying so much about him. It's you.

Answer 8

Unless he seeks help he can sustain a long-term relationship but only with a passive person who allows him to abuse them.

Answer 9

i hope it's not you but an abuser will need loong thereapy to become a non abuser and unless he will change he won't have relationships becasue a lady needs love not to be abused

Answer 10

I dont think so because i think once an abuser always a abuser