Can an emotional abuser hold a long-term relationship?

Question

I had an emotional abusing boyfriend and he left me without any communication and moved onto another guy(his boss in his workplace within a month after he started working) and was with both of us for a while. If I didn't ask him, he was probably going to play the game with both of us and when I asked him, he said he was with another one and I was hurt since he never communicated it to me. We kept the contact but me wounds still did not heal. I am curious if he is going to be able to hold this relationship for a long time with him. Before this, he had a lot of 3-month, 4-month, 6-month, 8-month relationships and it seems that there is no gap between these and all overlap. When I ask him why he was with them, he gave me different answers eact time such as I didn't want to be alone, or I was enjoying the sex and etc. I really loved him but when I discovered his this face, I was shocked and sad.

Answer 1

I think maybe you know the answer but perhaps do not want to deal with the reality of the situation. This man sounds like he has intimacy issues. He appears unable to sustain a relationship...a relationship is not simply the thrill of the conquest and sexual excitement, or simply not wanting to be alone. Of course attraction, affection, and sex are fun, but when the reality of everyday living surfaces, does the individual in question have the ability to be truly present? He would be considered not an emotional abuser, in my opinion but rather someone who is afraid to be alone...and on top of that equates a relationship with the thrill of the chase, not looking for commonality with a partner, and shared ideals, that could lead to a healthy relationship.

What this boils down to is what do you want? What did you love about him? Feeling anxiety, and mistrust is not love. If your feelings are not reciprocated it can be quite painful. If he had a history of stable, long term partnerships, I might suggest, if yours was brief, that it was not satifactory for him. But this is not the case. You must decide what your wishes, and hopes and desires are, and match them to an individual who can offer you that in kind.

I wish you the very best.

Answer 2

He's going to keep this behavior up as long as people enable him to do so!!! He apparently his picking people out that have low self-esteem, and he knows how to play them. I think it's called NO respect. That's why he just dumps them without truly communication, he doesn't feel like he has too.I am not by no means being rude to you, I am just being honest. This person knows exactly what he is doing, and NO he is not staying around with anyone for the long run. Unless he is very good at his social pathetic ways, one day he will go boom. But I would hold my breathe, instead I would try and learn something from the creep!

Answer 3

NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! That slim ball will be in and out of relationships faster than you will be able to heal those deep penetrating wounds. You sound like a nice person don't let a relationship like that keep you down just persevere though life and show him that you can make it. You don't need him and if he comes running back. He's just giving you the pleasure of returning the favor.

Answer 4

Why have you kept in contact with this guy? Why would you expect a guy that you identify as emotionally abusive to communicate his reckless behavior in an honest manner? For you to heal, you're going to have to cut him off. It seems pretty clear to me that he has done a huge number to your esteem, that you are being expected to basically wait around while he plays the field. Find a guy who treats you like a human being, and deep-six this one. He's bad news, and will always be bad news.

Answer 5

Possibly in principle, but no one would want to have a long-term relationship with him.

Answer 6

Bachelor haven...