Is it common for ladies who stay at home feel like they would like to someone to talk with?

Question

I am a married 33 year old man. There is another couple that we are friends with. She stays at home. I stopped by their house one day at lunch to pick up something. I ended up sitting around for an hour just talking with her. Her husband is an hourly worker that is not allowed to come home for lunch. Well, it became common for me to spend one lunch a week with her. No sex just talk. Sometimes I would go with her to get things done in town so I could help her with the kids. I found myself looking forward to those days and becoming close to her. We stopped this about 3 weeks ago because of the appearance of it. We never had sex, talked about sex, or even touched. We just talked about our lives and what was going on. I know that we can not continue because of what others will say we are doing. I miss it though. I have thought about trying to find someone to talk to on the phone or email to have this kind of relationship. But it is hard to do. I have a pretty cushy management job what allows me lots of free time and that is both good and bad. Is it common for ladies who stay at home all day alone to desire a friendship like this?

Answer 1

I am stuck at home all day & I don't think there is anything at all unusual about this. As a matter of fact I think you sound like a very good friend. I just moved away from my hometown all the way across the country & I could only wish I had someone to spend my afternoons with. It gets very lonely & frustrating being by yourself. I am also married, but I have always found that it is easier to talk to my guy friends.In my eyes I don't see anything wrong with a guy/lady friendship & if it makes you happy people should understand.

Answer 2

Yes. Women are natural communicators and staying at home all day with no human contact is very taxing on the soul. As a stay at home mom I can relate to her need to develop relationships with people outside the home. HOWEVER, I am very, very happy that both of you chose to end your platonic relationship before either of you were tempted to make a life changing mistake. That took a lot of self dicipline and control and you should be very proud of yourself for that. But you also need to have your needs met. You did not mention your relationship with your wife in your question, but I guess I can assume that you don't feel that you can talk to her the same way. She really is the person that you should talk to because even if you had a pen/email pal you could develop feelings for that person and slip up. Try to reconnect with your wife. Take a class together or start a hobby together and that should give you some common ground to start the conversation going. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Yes, actually it is. When your just home, you might have things to do, but it's not enough, everyone needs someone to talk to. I'm not a stay-at-home wife, but I used to be off a job for about 3 months, and it get's pretty loney. I think it is very wise of you to back off. You might not be doing anything wrong, but other people do take it that way. What other people think is not important, but what your friend thinks, is, especially if he doesn't know about the chats. Even though he knew, it's not that good, because good friendships, especially between a men and women, become something else. I don't mean always, but let's not risk it. Once in a while is okay to chat, but not daily and for extended periods of time. Just be careful, and make sure you have your friends input. If you don't feel comfortable asking, it's best you don't do it.

Answer 4

yes women with and with out kids that stay home do get lonely and need some one to talk to... as does everyone. I have a few questions for you, why werent you having lunch with your own wife? And did your wife and her husband know what was going on or were you 2 hiding it? And, the things you were sharing with her, why werent you sharing them with your wife? And the same to her too.
And just to let you know, even though you mentioned you 2 never had or talked about sex, Sometimes an emotional affair hurts just as bad and often a lot worse than a sexual affair.
I think you should be really thinking about what the real reasons you were meeting and talking to her and not your wife. And figure out why you miss her. You enjoyed and miss it as much as her, and you should be more worried/ thoughtfull, as to why you were doing it instead of asking if it was normal for a women to want to talk.
Sometimes taking a step back and reevaluating your life will do you more good than you can believe.
Find some truth with in yourself.

Answer 5

no see that is where you are wrong if her husband is ok with it and he knows that nothing will happen or anything has happen screw the other people and what they think. If this will remain as a friendship and nothing else then it should be ok longs the husband is ok with it that is the only person who you should be concerned about no one else. I am a stay at home mom right now too and i have a male friend who comes over and sits and talks with me and sometimes we take the kids to the beach and stuff too and my husband is fine with this bc he knows nothing will ever ever happen. so i say if you know that she is off limits and that you can hold yourself from sex and sexual nature then go eat lunch with her go do things with her. Just make sure the husband is ok with this if he is then you should be. DON Tworry about what others think bc it only matters what she and her husband thinks bc they know whats going on everyone will talk no matter what. so screw the rest and just be happy. I say if the husband is ok about this then keep eating lunch with her and helping her. I know i would like that. BUT KEEP IT AS FRIENDSHIP NOTHING ELSE. if you can do that then you will be ok i you are not sure you can then you do need to stop.

Answer 6

It is common for women that stay at home to crave contact with other adults. If you weren't hiding the friendship and visits and your wife and her husband are okay with it then no wrong was done.
BUT, I believe you are setting up a situation where one or both of you could fall in love... she probably has feelings for you already, so you might want to limit your solo time with her in the future and just hang out as couples. Maybe if she needs a specific favor now and then you could help out but not weekly visits like that.

Answer 7

I would say yes, stay at home moms do get lonely and welcome adult company, regardless if you are male or female. But, you need to do the right thing and back off if you are developing romantic feelings for her, or however you want to put it. You wouldn't want to be the cause of a broken family! You are talking about more than you and her, but each of your spouses. You are doing the right thing by backing off. Devote your down time in planning something special and romantic for your own wife. It seems that it lacks it since you are 'missing' your time with the other married woman. Good luck!

Answer 8

Yes very common indeed. I am married,stay home and I will even talk to a cat if I'm allowed one. I can't talk to my kids since thay are still small but I am longing for somebody to talk with anytime. It takes out the stress brought about by taking care of the kids and the house chores.

Answer 9

It can be anyone that feels like this and not just a women who stays home. If either a man or woman isn't getting what they need from their significant other than one would think they would look for it somewhere else whether it just be someone to talk to or more.

It's nice to have someone to talk to - someone that listens to what you have to say but I would encourage people that feel like this to first try talking with your siginifcant other before persuing a relationship outside.

Answer 10

Yes. That is why I have girlfriends. Talking like that to a male is begging for trouble. For a woman, emotional adultery happens before physical adultery. I love my husband and kids too much to do that. I'll make small talk at Cub Scouts or a baseball game with one of the other dad's, but that's it. Marriage is sacred!