ok so me and my boyfriend are in our teens. we love each other VERY much and we have been going out for 7 months but weve known each other since kindergarten! we think were ready to have sex now but i dont want to ask or tell my mom because im afraid she wont let me see him anymore. we want to have sex but not let anyone know...he has got condoms but do they really work? what can we do to be COMPLETLY safe??? please help!
2007-01-02 04:52:52 · 5 answers · asked by c to the i e double r the a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You a re young.. and i honestly feel that sex is overated anyway.. you should abstain from having sex.. If he cares for you he will understand.. Trust me.. if you have sex with him your relationship will change.. besides you have your whole life to have sex (with whoever you want) later when you and (he) are responsible adults. Condoms are not fool-proof should you have sex be ready for any and all consequences that come with having pre-marital (teen) sex.. parenthood; abortion; adoption; Sexually transmitted diseses; as well as the respect you may lose from your parents, and the respect from your boyfriend, as well as your peers... Use your own judgment and try to make the wise decision. I just know if my daughter were to come to me about having sex.. I would like to talk about it and hope she would make the right decision to abstain till marriage.. or at the least when she is ready for any responsibility that may result from having such a relationship.
Good Luck
2007-01-02 06:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by MistrMann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a couple of options. With the new privacy laws, you can now see a doctor without your mother knowing about it or you may go to your local health unit or your local community action. Both of them offer free advice on contraceptives, condoms and so on. Latex condoms work better then the animal skin kind do as far as safety and effectiveness.
2007-01-02 05:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by brighterdayscounseling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is scientifically proven that there's no such thing as safe sex! and besides, why do it when you can do it after marriage? it is a sacred thing between a husband and wife, are you sure that you will be with your bf for the rest of your life? will you not regret bout what you're going to do? how are you going to face your husband with all that guilt hidden from him? sex can be fun to a pair of husband and wife but then i think that premarital sex is something wrong....
you gotta be very careful bout the choices you make in life, girl...
2007-01-02 05:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Nausea Gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god, haven't you learned ANYTHING? It's better to at least tell your mom that you want to do it, than for this to happen:
You don't tell your parents.
You do it.
You THINK your parents won't find out.
Sooner or Later, they find out.
You're in trouble.
uh oh....
You see, once I didn't tell my parents something because I thought they wouldn't be happy about, so I lied. Later they found out, and they were happy that I did it, they just were angry cuz I lied to them.
So therefore, better be safe than sorry.
That's my opinion, you go do whatever the hell you wanna do.
2007-01-02 07:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by puh-lease 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The completeely safe is to refuse to do any sex before married. If you love each other very much,why you wait to complet your fact life.
2007-01-02 05:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by abotraka777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋