What features do I look for when trying to find the perfect woman?

Question

I am trying to find a mate. I am not bad looking, just overweight. What features do I look for? I am 32 yrs old and have never really had a girlfriend. I know, it's sad, but I just don't want to end up alone?

Answer 1

Well, first of all, no one is perfect. Hopefully you will find someone "perfect for you".

Being overwieght should not be a huge issue to finding a soulmate. If they are the one for you, they will accept that. Yet, for health reasons, you may want to make slimming down a New Year's Resolution.

I am a woman, so, if I were looking for excellent qualities in a man, they would be the following:
Honesty
Humor
Compassion
Friendship
Intelligence
Spirituality.
Sensuality
Commitment to bettering oneself

If you want someone for the short run, look for external features. If you want someone for the long haul, look deeper then surface appeal. Beauty eventually fades but what lies beneath is what stays through the years.

Answer 2

Go out, find something that you like to do. Pick up a group hobby and meet people that way. Get together with a running group or anything physical if you feel the weight is an issue. Meeting someone through mutual interests is a very effective way of forming a bond with people. But take it slow, if you come on too strong, you'll scare away a potential woman.

Answer 3

Well, first of all, there is no perfect person. You just need to find someone that has the same interest as you. When you are out at functions that you are into, find someone there that you can strike up a conversation with. Don't worry about her looks or yours for that matter.........anyway, some of us girls like a little meat with our potato's.......good luck honey

Answer 4

I just recently figured out how easy this is myself after a much longer time of meeting the wrong women and trying to make it work, but... before I tell you, why don't you cut out some carbs, join a gym (where you might meet somebody possibly, but you'll be doing yourself a favor no matter what)?

It's gonna take about 6 months or longer to figure out if a woman is missing something key to make a life work with you, so you might get your heart broken a time or two before you get real strong, but...

You've got to start asking women out all the time, and when you hit a major red flag, you move on trying to find a better one.

You've got to learn to pay attention to them and see "them" instead of what you want to see. Pay attention to something aside from your own ego.

If they like you, they won't make it hard for you. If they make it hard, then they don't care enough to make it work. Move on.

Traits: Integrity (says what she means, means what she says, is a good person--don't make excuses for her).

Flexibility: you both have lives, so you both have to work to make things work in a relationship. Relationships are about give and take. Stay away from take and take. Look for somebody who is giving: if she isn't giving, she isn't interested in anything permanent with you.

If what she is saying is confusing, it's because she probably lacks integrity and doesn't doesn't have enough interest in you to make things work. Move on.

Positive Attitude: If she's always complaining about things, move on before you are the subject of all her complaints.

Disrespect: If she doesn't respect you, it's already over. If she's flirting with other men in front of you or complaining about you all the time, move on.

The thing to remember is that if she likes you enough to make it work, has integrity, a positive attitude, is flexible and respects you..., then it's going to be easy for you to stay positive, compromise within reason, be honest with her and yourself, and respect her.

And if you don't do that stuff, she should move on to the next one.

Thing is... sometimes it takes 6-10 months to figure it out with some of them, and that hurts, but you have to learn to walk away with your integegrity, and you will learn that if you don't make the mistake of marrying the wrong one.

Answer 5

The perfect woman is different for each individual. That is something you have to answer on your own. If you find someone attractive, ask her on a date, and take it from there.

Answer 6

#1 Someone you are attracted to and her attracted to you. I know that sounds shallow, but the truth is the truth, you have to be attracted or it just won't work.
#2 Both of you have to respect each other
#3 Both have to be willing to compromise. Not give up dreams etc; but compromise and be courteous to each other, support each other and be understanding of each other.
#4 Both must be willing to make a comittment. We, not you or I.
Love will surely follow.

Answer 7

there is no such thing as "the perfect woman". there is only the prefect woman for you. i would try to find someone that you get along with, has similar interests and ideas. the rest just falls into place.

Answer 8

"I just don't want to end up alone"
If that is what you feel then I would say desperation.

Women, success, money all come with strength of character. Money comes when you save it and stop sending it on stupid stuff you WANT and don't NEED.
Success comes when you focus the NEEDS of company and not the wants.
With success and money women come, but most of them will be gold diggers.

Answer 9

Honestly? Look for friendship; someone who's going to be your friend and in whom you enjoy friendship no matter what.

There's no such thing as perfection, as you know, but a perfectly solid friendship can lead to other things. My wife is my best friend, and has been for years.

Good luck to you, man!

Answer 10

A "perfect" woman? LOL You will be looking for a long time.

Look for a woman who is compatible with you, whos company you enjoy, and who feels the same about you. This is about as good as it gets.