Cheers. I'm interested in this. I agonised over it for years until I came to the conclusion that I'm bi.
2007-01-02 04:42:24 · 19 answers · asked by psychedelic_fighter 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think some of the Answerers above misunderstand how you are using the word "decide." I think you meant that what you are was unclear to you because of acceptance issues. I don't think you mean that you "chose" your sexuality; instead, I think you mean that had difficulties coming to terms with it.
If that is the case, then yes, I had an awful time "deciding" (or should I say, I had an awful time understanding my nature) because I did not want to be gay -- I did not want to suffer what I had thought was the stigma of being gay. Little did I realize that there is no stigma as such in today's society. Instead, all I did was traumatize myself...
What made me know for sure was just paying attention to my desires and to my memory of my desires. When I finally cut the crap and was honest with myself, I realized that I was forcing myself to desire women, while desiring men just came naturally and took no effort whatsoever!
Peace to you in 2007!
2007-01-02 06:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by fall2005buseng 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually for years I was 100% positive I was straight.
In my early twenties there was actually a bad situation that occurred between myself and a woman that should have been charged, jailed and sent to he||...
Afterwards, through all of the soul searching that comes with healing after such an ordeal, I ran the gamut of emotions. I came away from the experience needing to know if being with a woman was something that i might be interested in...in a much safer and more comfortable situation, without the violence.
The answer came after I met my husband and we tried a threesome...all parties involved KNOWING that, given the previous history, there was a distinct possibility that nothing would happen. After this experience, talking with my husband, had to admit that I'm comfortable with the sexual orientation of being bisexual. Apparently he doesn't mind :)
2007-01-02 05:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by gords_babygirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it was much more difficult for me to accept that I was gay than it was to decide whether I was gay. Deciding was easy. I knew for sure that I was gay when I hit puberty in junior high and the other guys turned me on (especially in the locker room). Although I realized I was gay, I didn't want to admit it. Jerks would look at me and ask if I was gay. I would always get angry that they could even think that and tell them I wasn't. Part of the reason I was angry with them, was because I couldn't accept myself and because of the fact that the guys were just being jerks and made me so mad. I was very self-conscious at that time.
2007-01-02 09:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always had a thing for guys. I didn't know I was 'gay' or I was not-'normal'. But with puberty the feeling turned sexual and after a whilie I was pretty sure I was gay.
But I never had any trouble accepting that. At the time (around 13-14) I didn't consider the cultural influences and stuff. There are very many... but the thing is I'm gay and happy!
2007-01-02 05:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Silver 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I always thought I was gay or bi. I always pictured myself married to a nice lady and having kids as a little girl. I always thought women were way hotter then guys. I am married to a man who is very handsome, sensitive-in a very manly way and knows how to turn me on faster then you can say "now!" .... so I guess technically I am bi but am happily married.
2007-01-02 09:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't decide anything. It was not a mental choice but how I am hard wired. I am straight and could never physically or otherwise be with anyone but a woman because it's not a choice to me
2007-01-02 04:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. Some times it takes decades for people to make up their minds, others a turn on a dime. It was not difficult for me.
2007-01-02 14:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by WB2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I didn't give it much thought...I just did what I wanted to do...But now I am giving it alot of thought...Appearantly I am a lesbian now! And I love it! =) I knew for sure when I started kinda coming out and dating girls...I realized that I never liked guys in a sexual way...Just emotionally cuz every1 else was doing it...But the truth is that I only liked girls sexually...And now emotionally...And I totally know what I like now...It was just a matter of trying both and sorting myself out...I don't know if what I said makes much sense...But that's what happened! =) ♥ ♥ ♥
2007-01-02 06:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by Hanan♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh no!
I did not "decide" what I was. Once I find out that I had some kind of "physical reactions" toward men, I knew that I was gay.
2007-01-02 04:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Kedar 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋