Ever get tired of hearing the same old complaint everyday everyday from your spouse about thier job, aching back, etc etc; and then deal with thier blah attitude and depression. Beg them to seek help but they won't. Just how much are you suppose to take of this. Love them, but let's face it, it really really gets old. When is enough enough?
2007-01-02 04:38:20 · 17 answers · asked by Wondrin Dude 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For a minute I thought I asked this question! I totally get you. Plus you get tired of trying to be "supportive" when they just want to wallow in misery. I think you have to have a "come to Jesus" talk with you spouse. I've been avoiding it til after the holidays, but I'm in the same boat. It just isn't healthy for either of us to be getting dragged down like an anchor. Good luck!
2007-01-02 04:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by mr_slacker70 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so right you shouldn't always be the only one home. He made these kids with you therefore he should be home with you. I am sorry that I can't relate with you because my husband is always home. However, before I was married I dated a bunch of jack asses that made me feel like I had to compete with their friends, so I kind of get you. Listen don't be afraid to speak up. I am surprised that you have let this go on. Does he know you feel like this? I am sure he does and you really don't have to keep quiet about it. If you can try to remind yourself of what he does do right. This way you don't lose your mind and kill him. I am a stay at home mom and at the end of the day I am so glad when my husband gets home. I think you are strong for being mother and father to your kids and that's exactly what he needs to hear. Tell him you need more support. As far as you getting out, try to get a babysitter for a couple of hrs every now and then. You deserve it!
2016-05-23 06:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you tired of your spouse or the way they are acting?
If she is suffering from depression, it may be almost impossible for her to seek help on her own. Depression is a horrible problem -- it makes you unable to truly help yourself -- this is where loving family needs to step in and force the issue. You may need to give her an ultimatum to get her to go. You should make an appointment and accompany her there and talk with the doctor about her problems (She will probably deny them or diminish how bad they are.)
So instead of sitting around complaining about HER, do something! Find a way to help get rid of her depression, seek therapy, and you will probably find the woman you love again.
2007-01-02 04:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by Karen L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife does the same thing and then I upset her by asking "So what are you going to do about it? I could complain about the government, the environment, but since I'm not planning on doing anything about I keep my mouth shut. Do you want to brain storm about how to make you life better?" She tried replying with "for starters finding a better husband." I just replied with "Good start. Lets call that Plan A. What other ideas do you have?" Now when she complains I say "What ever happen to Plan A?"
2007-01-02 05:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truth is enough will never be enough. When you said "I do", that was it. Besides i could be worse. Your spouse could be out cheating or on drugs or just a terrible person. So think of it this way, when you think you are doing bad there is always someone else doing worse so be thankful for what and who u have and cherish that cause you obviously married them for a reason.
2007-01-02 04:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by shay80800 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For better or worse. I think if you are sick of the complaints you should come up with a new attitude: some new hobbies, working out, do something different! When they get to be a pain in the buttt you need to come up with constructive activities for yourself... believe me than then start luring around, "Why aren't you paying attention to me?" And then you hit them with I don't want to spend my personal time with you whining. :)
2007-01-02 04:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get tired of my husband, But I could never leave him for it, I'm sure everybody feels the same about there spouse once in a blue moon but when you married each other, you both had vow's that you intended to keep, so keep them.
2007-01-02 04:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she keeps telling you about her problems hoping one day you will give a s h i t ? Just listen to her and be supportive. She just needs someone to vent to, and she feels like her husband of all people should be the one she is able to do that with. I am sure she returns the favor when you need to vent or tell someone about your aching back. If you ignore her enough, she will find someone sles she can talk to who will listen to her without complaining and she will leave you to be with them and you won't have to worry about it anymore.
2007-01-02 04:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by PDH 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By looking at all of your questions that you have asked, from all the time of separations, and your having sexual affairs with other women, cheating, that you indeed casued all of her depression and aches in her body. You have destroyed all of her self esteem and pride of your selffish attiutude.
You stated that you love her, but yet you have not yet protected her from the wounds that you done in her heart breaking her trust, spirit and the love she had for you are fading away.
unless you stop your selffish attiutude and start giving all of yourself to her, love her, cherish her, protect her.
What's old that you done this to her, and if you want her back, you need to win her love back and bring life and joy back in her heart of love and joy of being your wife!
She needs to start taking care of her self, exercise, cut off the enriched white flour off her diet, red meat off her diet, and she needs to heal emotionally and mentally of all the neglect abuse that you cause to her.
If you love her, then ask her to forgive you, and all of your ways, get rid of all exgirlfriends numbers, and start fresh, and never go to trying to just cheat and meeting your penis heads needs, but go for your brain head's and heart, of being a good husband to her.
Enough is enough. If you really love your wife, when you go to Shreveport stop looking for new girls to have sexual relationships, and stop having affairs, and don't advertise looking for girlfriend, when you know you are marry and toying with other women on their emotional needs just a selffish act on your part of unapproiated behavior!
I am not bashing you, just trying to let you see real advice about your relationship with your wife.
Then you need to be the head of your household, and she needs love, honour , respect and even be submissive to you because you are her husband!
That is my bottom line, you are losing her, and the way you guys have been through, I really don't think you want to lose her, so don't lose her of your past hurts. I strongly believe that a husband is the head of the household,and the wife must submit to him in everything, and love, honour, respect must follow!
2007-01-02 05:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes i get so tried of hearing my husband fuss about how bad he has it. he stayed home without working for a whole year and just now has been working for all of one month but he thinks he's got it bad.
2007-01-02 04:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by tia322001 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋