What is the downside of marrying a tunisian man?

Question

I met him a year ago by being his customer, started dating three months ago, he proposed, I have said yes. but everytime we talk, there is more muslim stuff I have to do to marry him. Is this really going to work?

Answer 1

I am an American who is married to a Tunisian. I met him when he came to America for some job training. We started off as friends and gradually became more. We have been together 7 years and married 5.

First of all, there is no "Muslim things" that you need to do to get married. A Muslim man is allowed to marry a non-Muslim even if she doesn't convert. Take me for example. My husband is a devout Muslim, and I am a Catholic. We are married and he has never forced me to convert. Converting or not is a choice that you have to make for yourself and should not be imposed on you. This is stated clearly in Islamic law.

Tunisians are only allowed to marry one wife, in case you were wondering about that, and no, we are not treated as possessions. Tunisia is pretty much in tune with Europe when it comes to womens rights. Women have the right to file for divorce, to work, to dress how they like, to go where they want, and so forth. In fact, Tunisia was one of the first countries in the world to give women equal rights and even to allow them to vote.

As for the downside of marrying a Tunisian, you will face downsides of marrying anyone. No one is perfect. Marriage is a big step no matter who you take it with. I would say that before you get married you and your fiancee need to sit down and have a long talk. This is especially important because you come from two different cultures and have two different mother tongues. You must keep the lines of communication open and explain yourselves so that nothing gets lost in translation. Tell each other what you want and expect from the marriage, how you expect to be treated, and how you expect to treat him. If you do not want to convert, make sure you say that right away so he doesn't have false hopes and tell him not to pressure you. Make sure that you are on the same page before going through with the marriage. These are things that should be done with whomever you plan to marry, whether they be from your culture or not.

I wish you the best of luck, and if you need someone to talk to, or have any questions, please feel free to contact me.

Answer 2

Depends, do you want to covert? If not, then you need to tell him that you can't marry him. It will save you a lot of pain and heartbreak in the future.

Answer 3

No, it won't work out for you. Muslim men tend to treat their wives as property and are very controlling.

Answer 4

not unless you are prepared to become a fully fledged muslim. obey the rules. accept all aspects of the doctrine. wear a burka. if you aren't, don't. YOU will not change HIM.

Answer 5

No.