I'm getting a divorce and we go to court on next Tues. Why is he trying to call me now and patch things up? He sent me a letter and he's trying to call me and talk nice but that's b/c he wants to have joint custody of the kids. He never paid child support...What is up with this dude?
2007-01-02 04:30:46 · 13 answers · asked by angelic1302 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wants to so say do what's best for the kids(4 & 3 yr old boys) he feels that both parents should be in the same house.
He was very controlling, abusive in everywhich way plus he cheated on me left and right. I didn't care and took it for a long time. Too long! I left so many times but came back evertime.This time is for real-We've been seperated for 2 years. I'm ready to get it over with. He cursed me and my family on the internet and tried to spread rumors. He isn't respectful and he hasn't paid child support. He tried to kidnap the children twice. Now he's trying to scrabble to see them now. I never stopped him from coming to see them we just couldn't go to Houston b/c of finacial reasons but that shouldn't stop him from coming down. I have a new wonderful man in our lives now and we are ready to get to the next level. He knows this and now he's trying to get us back. He wants to talk nice but then acts nasty all the time. I can't take this bipolar crap anymore...
2007-01-02 04:55:20 · update #1
It is better for you and your kids to get along with your ex, obviously he is going to try to sweeten things up so that you go a little easier in court, really think about what it is you want and don't let your guard down. If you want to work things out with him this may be your last oppurtunity, if not, keep strong and don't give up!
2007-01-02 04:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by angle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably having second thoughts. Divorce is tough. People tend to question whether or not they are making the right decision, even though by the time it's gotten to the point of filing the papers, it usually is the right decision. The reasons you chose to get divorced are still there, unresolved otherwise. Nothing wrong with having joint custody, it just means that you both have a right to make certain decisions concerning the kids. It will not erase child support obligations.
2007-01-02 12:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it. The worst part of the breakup/divorce is nearly over. Whoever gets the shorter end of the stick (usually whoever got dumped) has their ego injured, and the natural impulse it to try to figure things out. Even if that's not the case, you don't seem predisposed to being all that nice to him, so just tell him it ain't going to happen and move on.
2007-01-02 12:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably doesnt want court ordered child support. you can get that to even with joint custody. so make sure its court oredered you will thank me later. that guy should take care of his kids monetarily no matter what. fight for it. he also might want a piece before the door finally closes. . good luck
2007-01-02 12:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the presses. Don't get the divorce yet. Get it continued in court. Check out what he wants. You can always get divorced later.
2007-01-02 12:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has never paid child support the he is a dead beat dad and he makes the rest of us dads look like poo ! leave him alone there are better men out there that need a chance to prove that they are better dads
2007-01-02 12:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by irondevil1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question, so why are you wasting everyone's time? Go bake some cookies or something.
2007-01-02 12:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He wants to make it work again. Give him a second chance on life. Don't break his heart.
2007-01-02 12:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your the one who broke it off, then maybe(if he's the controlling type) he wants to be the one to say good bye.
2007-01-02 12:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did not mention how old are ur children and also is it a male baby or female baby......... leave tat.. wat actually happened..? y am sayin like this is.. the qstn which u asked is only a part of thing which happened...... after cing the qstn i can answer in both the ways.. i think u have to say wat actually happened......? one thin i'll say..no need 2 fear until n unless u do somethin wrong..... tats wat is my suggestion.....
2007-01-02 12:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by aryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋