I just need to know if there is something wrong with me or maybe my boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years but we just got serious about having a baby and its not working. I need help or answers. Thank you.
2007-01-02 04:06:30 · 11 answers · asked by Dolly K 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
dont try so hard, give it a rest and see what happens
2007-01-02 04:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's cycle is different. There is a myth that woman ovulate 14 days after their period begins...but that is only an AVERAGE and each month can be different. The other thing is that sperm can live inside you for up to 5 days.... so if you are having a shortened cycle one month and you have sex right after your period and you ovulate earlier than day 14 than yes, there is a chance of getting pregnant. The only way to know is to know exactly when you ovulate. There are several ways to know and some are more effective than others. Some can only predict before ovulation happens and some can only predict that is has already happened. The absolute best info I can give you is to go read a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive – or not! . It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not.
My husband and I tried for 1 year and had no luck..… We tried ovulation predictors , laying with pillows under me for 20 min. everything……the first month that I began using the book I realized that my timing was WRONG!. We got pregnant that very first month and I am now due Feb 2, 2007. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths! Even if you don't get into charting and everything....it will help you in so many ways!
2007-01-02 12:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you on birth control up to this point? I know it takes a little while for the birth control to get completely out of your system. Your body just might be more sensative to it. I would make an appt. with your doctor just for a physical and mention that you've been trying for 6 monthes. That way its at least documented. They will say to keep trying probably for another six monthes, before they will consider anything being wrong. My DH and I tried for 7 monthes before I got pregnant. I was a week away from making an appt. with the doc. and pretty much gave up all hope when I found out!
Also here are some helpful hints that helped us
1. Stress may cause problems and after trying so long it becomes stressful so suprise your husband with a quickie somewhere new (like the car or your backyard). Or suprise him with some sexy lingerie and be waiting for him in bed one night to spice it up. (we got pregnant when I made a suprise visit to my Dh at work one night and we had a quickie lol)
2. elevate your hips on some pillows after sex
3. wait to go to the bathroom for at least 20 minutes
4. have sex with him on top
Good Luck!
2007-01-02 12:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by cavwife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The recipie for having a baby is have sex every other day 10 days before, during, and after you are ovulating. If you have sex every day your BF sperm is not as strong. Also, find a good fertility doctor. I doubt they would do much for you now though because you have to be trying for at least one year before they run tests. Find one now though and make an appointment in another 3 months so you are guarenteed to get right in when you hit that year mark. Also, dont stress. Your body has its best chance of getting pregnant when you are not stressed. It can be hard when you want a little baby so badly.. but dont worry it will happen. Keep your chin up! Oh and I would also buy an ovulation kit to find out your best days.
2007-01-02 12:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what I think is happening. Your Not Married, and somewhere inside you or him, is a very deep guilt, bringing a child into this world "illegitimately". or it could be that your "just trying too much". One thing, if your boyfriend wears "spandex" or any tight underwear, tell him to start wearing "boxers". It has been medically proved, that "tight" male underwear, inhibits "sperm". You can also go on a "low dosage" birth control pill for 6-months. Following that, when you stop, you become much more susceptible to "pregnancy". Otherwise, asking This Audience if there is something wrong with you or your boyfriend is ludicrous. You have to have a "doctor" determine that my dear! Good Luck, and Get Married first and I know that will help you both a great deal. Happy New Year.
2007-01-02 12:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey sweetie,
I know exactly how you feel. I was on the pill 7 years. I got off the pill in June 2006. Every month that passed and I got my period I would cry and hurt.. its was awful. I can sympathize with you. I know how you feel. I wondered the same thing, will I ever get pregnant? Is he fertile? am i? on and on and on.. and it bugged me when people would tell me don't stress, because I thought hell, how can I NOT STRESS?? I want this so bad. Fortunately that was the best advice I was given.."lol".. I went to the doc and they told me I wasn't ovulating.. I gave up ;( I WAS SO heart broken.. I went out of town for Thanksgiving and it was the last thing on my mind.. came home, missed period.. turns out I was pregnant the day the doc told me I wasn't ovulating. I told you all of this to let you know you are not alone.. Just put it in the back of your mind and know its going to happen soon, since you aren't preventing it anymore. Have sex, eat healthy, go ahead and start prenatal vitamins.. be patient. When you least expect it your gonna miss your period and you will be so happy! Good luck ;) and baby dust to you ;)
2007-01-02 12:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by Violet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I tried for over a year. I was wondering the same things, maybe something was wrong. But I just found out I am pregnant. I think once I stopped stressing out about it and thinking about it so much it helped. Every woman's body is different. Good luck!
2007-01-02 12:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by esschnarr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would suggest going to the doctor and making sure that nothing medically is holding the two of you back. Then if everything is a go.........keep trying and relax...I know that is not encouraging but I have been ttc for a year now and I am about to give up and not worry about it. Everyone around me is pregnant and it is very depressing......I wish you too the best of luck.............
2007-01-02 13:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by lilsnob8681 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop stressing it will happen. That's what everyone keeps telling us. We have been trying for 4 months!
2007-01-02 12:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doctor's usually want you to try for one year before trying alternative methods. You can play around on ivillage.com. I love this website. They discuss issues like this. Good luck.
2007-01-02 12:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋