i have a husband who like going out by himself or his friends but when coming from there i hear different bad sorts of things that he does while out. We have been together for 7 years and we have 2 kids together the youngest is 3 months. He like telling me lies but sometimes i realise from other people that it was lie and when i ask him sometimes he sticks to his lies and sometimes he does not answer. I caught him with another woman once. i can divorce him but i have nowhere to go since my parent are in another country and i dont even have enough money for my airticket. He is the only one who helps me financially. Pls help
2007-01-02 04:03:01 · 16 answers · asked by bambino 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Babe, ok, for the moment you may have to stay with him till you work something out.
This is the way to look at things.
Start by opening a bank account in your name only.
Put as much as you can aside.
ASK him for as much as you can as often as you can.
Don't worry if he moans or asks where the money is going to. You too can play stupid.
Next go to your employment agency and try and see what you can get in terms of training or job.
Don't worry about help with the children.
You will have more money leaving by yourself with your children than with your husband.
Don't worry either about nursery fees. It's expensive, but you'll get help weekly so you will manage.
You can get out in 6 months or less if it becomes too hard.
Approach social services .
The only thing is make SURE you know what you want before deciding approaching social services about a place of your own.
And any way, if you were to go back to him or stay with him, make sure you put some money aside so that you don't totally depend on him.
Good luck. It can be done, you can manage as a single mum.
I am a single mum of two. Felt like it even when I was married, but for real nearly 4 years ago.xx
2007-01-02 04:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a liar...always a liar...he must be covering something up or he just sounds like he has no responsibility for his family and prefers the single life. Ask a divorce lawyer for some advice and start saving for when you leave for travel and some stashed away if at all possible...after all that's what you need to plan for. Your children's happiness depends on you to a massive extent. if you can prove infidelity you have grounds for divorce. Please seek advice from a professional in this area and all the best to you and your kids xxxx
2007-01-02 04:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by minitheminx65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know which country you live in but if in Europe then you wont have to worry much financially. Plus you can if you want to kick him out of his own house and make him pay maintenance too. But if you love him then giving the above a try might even bring him back to his senses. Dont let him abuse your situation and not know how. The law is on your side and use it if you have to. He cannot kick you out, he cannot threaten you either. Perhaps you wanna tell him that you know you can do all of these but you dont want to but that doesnt mean he has to take advantage of you treating you like a door mat. good luck
2007-01-05 10:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by one_faithful_mo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change a liar. I was involved with one. I call them liars for sport. Most times people lie to cover up something they know is wrong. Really crazy liars just lie about everything. The thing is, you will never get them to admit anything. They lie about everything, and most times believe that if you weren't there, then there's no way you could know the truth.
2007-01-02 04:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes to make sure you are occupied with children or pregnant while he is out doing his bad things. He is enjoying himself at the expense of your misery, why did you pick him for a husband?
2007-01-02 05:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bambino, you are in the saddest, classic situation a wife/mother can be in. I guess you have no independent money, you have young children.
I'm sorry, I have no direct information, but try the Samaritans or similar.
Best of luck.
2007-01-02 04:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by lulu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont bother too much about what he is doing outside. sometimes men might be flirting around but when he's back home, u know he love his wife the most.
so the question is, does he atleast have respect for you? if the answer is yes, then there's still hope.
2007-01-02 04:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by cheeken lita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the usa here in the usa we have a saying and that is no women is a door mat and no one has the right to wipe their feet on you you can go to the court house and file for a divorce and you can asked for a waver so you dont have to pay any fee also you can asked for a restrain order and you have the three kids he have to pay your rent and food or go to jail and let him have has little booty call god bless you and the kids i hope he wake up for the sake of his family
2007-01-02 04:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to control you with his mind games and lies. You must get away from him he is no good for you or your children. Ring your local social services and they will help you with housing or somewhere temporary. Good luck
2007-01-02 04:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to call it a day! You can't believe,or trust anything he says or does,and eventually he's going to hurt you big time.He should have to support you and the children,even if he isn't living with you
2007-01-02 04:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋