i need help, Is there any way...........?

Question

Is there any way that can help me to be or have confident in mysefl???????????

have any of you gone through in this kind of problem? if so, how!

Answer 1

Three steps
-Dont concern yourself with what others think
-Know that you are an indavidual and others dont like that
-Visualize your outcome (positive)

I know this is very basic and also very hard to do. But to change takes focused energy and you need to keep it simple.

Lastly most people fear being laughed at - dont - just laugh along and know that everyone has their own shortcomings, flaws and fears just like you.

Answer 2

I have gone through the same problem. I have a very low self esteem and confidence. I have been through therapy and nothing was working. I even had this book that makes you write down the things that you feel you are and the things you would like to change and become. That worked for about 2 seconds. Then when me and my man broke up I felt horrible, like there was no way for me to ever feel the same way again. But I was wrong. To make myself feel somewhat better, I was dressing up all the time. I would do my hair and make-up and where clothes that made me feel "sexy" or good about myself. And it worked. I started feeling more confident and felt like I was on top of the world. I started to do things that not only helped me but helped other people. See I have a HUGE heart and I put everyone's needs in front of mine. And that works sometimes. Helping others gives me a "high" you could say. I feel good and happy that I did the right thing and helped someone in their time of need. Now you can only help those who want help. That can be hard to find people who need help and actually want it. But these are the things that I did to help me with myself esteem and confidence. I hope that this has either helped you or will give you an idea that may help you.

Answer 3

alright.. look girl, there's many many people in this world, and just in your country or state, there are much more people then u can imagine.

to each and everyone, those whole group of people out there are the same. everyday people leave their house, they see different people with the same flaws around. i bet you've notice this too. and that no matter how ugly a person is, you deffintely wouldn't really cared much, unless this person is extremely uniquely ugly till it catches your attention.

so come'on, people see u just as a tiny piece of pawn on a chessboard. nobody will really care about ur flaws other then people close to you.

so first of all, you have to really realize the fact that nobody out there actually cared about your flaws. and just be who you are. and if u think there are areas u need to improve, just do it.

all the best!

Answer 4

its all a matter on inner security, why would you not be confident in yourself? take the things you feel make you doubt yourself and break them down, identify the problem, what steps can you take right now to start fixing the problem,ask yourself at this very point and time in life right now is there anything i can do to help make this better. if you cant thats fine but going forward what can i do or not do to make it better. you can begin with something as little as making sure you look the people you are`speaking to right in the eye, when your speaking to someone and are looking them right in the eye you will come accross as being confident, weather you know what your talking about or not..and then you can build from there, people will react to you differently as you build your inner security and conficence. if there are outside factors than are contributing to your low confidence level they need to be identified and delt with also, if you cant come up with any beginning solution to jumpstart the process of bettering the problem then you need to maybe eliminate the problem or at leasrt the stress you may be putting on yourself regarding that particular issue, for example if i am stressed about the fact that i have gained 40lbs during this pregnancy, i can sit here and dwell on it, but at this very moment in time there is not much i can do about it, I know my baby is healthy and everything is right on schedule, now after i have the baby there are all kinds of steps i can take to fix or at least make this problem better, but for right now why spend precious time worring or stressing over something i can not do anything about.. as you put alot of the things that make you question yourself to rest, you will begin to build a belief in yourself. and when you become confident and believe in yourself others will also.... then you will be able to guide someone else along a similar path as the one you have just traveled.

Answer 5

yes there is a way this is what i think and correct me if i am wrong you are shy and do not talk very much unless someone starts the conversation woth you i was like that but now i am so blunt even i can not believe it so if you need more help e-mail me at [e-mail] by the way there are many ways to be confident

Answer 6

Honey i been there okay
i have had a huge problem wit self esteem and body image
i was afraid that nobody liked me for who i was i was so low i didnt care bout anything
but i changed because i started to look at my self ukno relly and i started just tellin myself everyday that i am nicci (thats my name) and aint a damb thing gonna change that. I told my self i could do anything because i had the strength to
sometines u gotta tell ur self that it is exactly wat u want urself to be and then reach to attain it
i think alot of it has to do with not carin wat others think about u and having friends who always put u up
and i think u need to invest in urself and do things u wldnt normally
cause it worked for me nuthin self destructive just things that are out of character
and things that u are not sho u can do but try any waz its a great booster

Answer 7

almost everyone at some point in time has a lack of confidence in themselves. it could result from them not liking the way the look, behave, their careers....
no one can help you gain confidence but you. i suggest that you write down all the positive attributes that you have and focus on them for a while.

Answer 8

You have to do this on your own. Being confident is learned, not given. Dress up, go out, have fun. You have to believe in yourself. No one can do this for you unfortunately.

Answer 9

i used to be like that in my first years of highschool. you have to know what your looking for. and you have to adapt to whatever your up against, you cant be shy at all and you should be nice to everyone and you will receive the same back. and it will take some time but you will learn that things could be worst

Answer 10

Start by loving yourself as you are right now, just say I love and approve of myself. read you can heal your life by louise hay. good luck sweetie.