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Are you pro choice when the pregnancy isnt the one you wanted?

2007-01-02 03:44:29 · 31 answers · asked by TrofyWife 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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The whole anti-abortion, pro choice argument is as old as the hills. Abortion has happened since the beginning of time, and will continue no matter if it is legal or not. There are herbal abortives used by every culture. A common abortion method was to place a plank on the woman's abdomen and have 2 people jump on it until blood in the vagina is seen. Another common thing to do is to go ahead and deliver the baby and then kill it via exposure, choking with chaff or something similar, selling it into slavery, or simply drowning. Do I need to go on?
The fact is that as long as people have free will, they are going to be impulsve and make mistakes, one of them being unintended pregnancies. Some people will want to have the baby, some will not. Those who do not want to have it, or can not deal with the consequences will find a way to attempt to terminate it. Abortion is only recently legal in the US. How many of you hard line anti-abortionists actually knew anyone that was killed or almost killed by either attempting an abortion on themselves or by having an unqualified person do it for them? Well, I did. My neighbor's daughter and my babysitter. Did she deserve to die because someone else wanted to force her to have a baby? NO. It was not ok back then, it will never be ok.
So, what to do aout abortion?? EDUCATION and PREVENTION. If you really, really, want to prevent abortion, start where it begins. Teach pregnancy prevention, volunteer at a free clinic and hand out condoms. Don't just be a "ditto head" repeating what others have told you.. go do the research, help by getting the word out on prevention and support free birth control legislation!!
and finally.. if you don't believe in abortion, then don't have one! But this is America, not Romania... choices must be available, people are going to have them anyway, so let's keep it safe!

2007-01-02 04:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by dedum 6 · 3 1

This is one of those heated topics that will attract those with the strongest viewpoints. Often, the pro-lifers seem to come out with the most venom. (At least that's been what I have witnessed so far in my life).

I am completely pro-choice. It's not my place to inflict my personal views and beliefs on anyone else. We can't all agree on when life begins, so it's too hard to say "it's murder". If that's the case, then let's look at IUDs and morning after pills, etc. Are they murder? Or are we preventing birth? I don't know, and I don't want to debate it.

Before we judge others for their choices, let's walk a mile in their shoes. I am sure we can make some allowances for victims of rape and incest, but consider the following example that happened to someone that I love...

She was married for 5 years. Had a house, a couple of dogs. One day out of nowhere, her husband tells her that he doesn't love her, and never did. He goes further to tell her that he had been seeing another woman and that he wanted the girlfriend and her daughter to move in, so she had to pack up her things and leave. Oh, AND that on top of being an alcoholic, he had been doing cocaine behind her back, and that is why he rarely had any money. Imagine the hurt and shock that came along with all of that. Three days later, she finds out she is pregnant. The "darling" husband tells her that he wanted nothing to do with it and that she'd probably miscarry anyways. And then at work, she finds out that the company is financially unstable and that they are considering closing down. So, she doesn't know where she is going to live, if she is going to have a job, she has very few supportive people in her life, and it looks so bleak that she can barely get out of bed everyday, let alone take care of herself well enough to have a healthy pregnancy. Should she keep her baby? Will he or she be healthy? How will she support it? I don't know what advice is the right answer for her, but I can't imagine telling her what to do in that situation. I can't possibly know what she is feeling unless I am inside her heart and her head. That is just too much happening at once. Whatever decision she makes, it has to be the one that is right for her. There are just too many awful things to sort out.

My son was unplanned, but very loved and wanted. But luckily, I have a great partner by my side. I can't imagine what it would be like to go through it without him, nor to go through a pregnancy during everything that my friend went through.

2007-01-02 04:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 3 0

I was a closet pro-choice woman until I started working for a Catholic pro-life organization and typesetting some of their materials on the truths about abortion.
I've seen pictures of some pretty gruesome things that are done in the abortion process and I have learned things about abortion that would make anyone think twice about what they are doing when considering one. I hate to go into detail but, when you see pics of tiny arms and legs and various other body parts pulled out of the mother and thrown in a bucket, well needless to say I am no longer pro-choice for any reasons what-so-ever. I am pro-life and proud to proclaim it.

By the way I am 6 weeks pregnant and this is the time that most women will find out that they are preg. and make a choice whether or not to carry the child. This is also the time that the child already has a heartbeat and little buds for arms and legs. How can anyone say that this little miricle isn't yet a human life when it has a heartbeat?

2007-01-02 04:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 3

I'm the exact opposite, actually. I'm pro-choice, with conditions.

For me personally, if I had an unplanned pregnancy, my choice would be to keep the baby, and I'd manage somehow. But that's MY choice. I would never presume I had the right to make that decision for any other woman.

2007-01-02 04:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

I would never ever have one. If I could die during birth or something like that, I would let my child live because I have lived my life, your child hasn't. But for a medical reason, I believe women should have a choice, but to use a birth control or just because you don't want it? That's wrong and should not happen. A baby is a blessing and I look at my two girls, one 8 months, and I cry. I have the best thing that could ever happen. And I have a life forming inside of me. It has a heartbeat and moves. My baby is very much alive and I cant wait to hold him/her and have my family together. There are women that try for years and pay lots of money to try and have babies. Abortion as birth control is wrong and should not be aloud.

And also, if abortion ever became illegal, which I sadly never happening, If a women would risk her life to kill a baby, then that's what she gets. She should have some problem like not being able to have kids ever again or something like that, so she can look back everyday and wish she had never done what she had done.

2007-01-02 04:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by kristin h 3 · 1 2

No, I'm pro-choice with conditions. And don't buy into "if you don't want to get pregnant don't have sex" it makes as much sense to me as "if you don't want to get fat, don't eat."

I'm 14 weeks pregnant and let me tell you, the first 2.5 months well HELL! I felt like I was at that stage of drunkeness where the room is spinning, you're waiting to throw up and nothing makes you feel better. I avoid drinking a lot so I never have to feel that way. Not to mention the impact it had on my work and social life.

Are you going to risk that for something you don't want?

Not to mention I can NOT imagine the prospect of giving birth and getting back in physical and mental health after a baby that you don't keep and didn't want.

I am a Buddhist and very spiritual. There is no soul in my baby yet. Many woman with high spiritual and body awareness are away of when the "soul" comes into their baby and its not usually until after at least 3 months, usually in the 5th.

No way, if you don't want it, there are sound reasons that it is not good in your life right now (money, relationship, support, health) and you're under 3 months, that unwelcome tenant has to go.

But if its "Oh, I'm pregnant but I want to go to Europe next year," or "Oh, I wanted the baby but now it has Down's syndrome," then to bad, I say that baby should be coming out.

2007-01-02 04:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 2 2

I agree thoroughly with you. you could not be professional-life and professional-conflict on a similar time. And whilst i do no longer understand if there is one in each and every of those element as "sound reasoning" once you communicate approximately someones life, i think of that there could be some very solid emotions approximately why somebody believes they way that they do. Now whilst i'm no longer unavoidably against conflict, i think that this one has long previous too some distance and too long. it somewhat is now no longer a "only" conflict. Had Bush no longer invaded Iraq, i could nonetheless help what he's doing. even however, he have been given removed from the job handy and desperate to do something else with undesirable intelligence and lies. i think interior the dying penalty and that i think in a woman's genuine to choose for. i'm no longer a huge proponent of abortion, yet i think that it somewhat is going to be a criminal selection. i assume i think in abortion ordinarily no count number if it somewhat is complete early interior the being pregnant. i think interior the dying penalty with the aid of fact whilst it somewhat isn't any longer a deterrent, the guy who dedicated the crime would be punished. The kin of the sufferer could have some small satisfaction in understanding that the guy who took the life of their kin member has been punished, despite if it grew to become into greater humane than the homicide he dedicated.

2016-11-25 22:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by dextra 4 · 0 0

I am pro choice - 100 %

2007-01-02 04:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by jachooz 6 · 3 0

Yes, pro life without conditions. Sorry to say that many women/girls are using abortion as a form of birth control.

Also, as far as the argument that we have a right to do with our bodies as we wish, that depends on whether you believe in the Bible or not. The Bible says that our bodies are not our own, but God's. So if you don't believe in the Bible and you live by your own moral compass (i.e., look at our society and how off base it is), then I guess you're right - you have the right to do whatever you want depending on what lawmakers decide is right and wrong, even if it means puncturing your baby's skull and killing as it is coming out. What's worse, partial-birth abortion or just throwing your newborn away to die (which is going on everywhere). And then we despise and prosecute these mothers that dispose of their newborns. I don't see the difference. Sorry to be harsh - trying to get my point across. Very scarey thought when man is left to decide absolutes and what is morally right or wrong. These precious babies didn't ask to be conceived but yet are paying the high price of selfishness (and no, I'm not referring to rape victims or victimes of molestation).

Babies have been paying the high price for thousands of years, in just about every society.

2007-01-02 04:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 3

I am pro-life. If one gets an unplanned pregnancy (stuff happens) there is a big loving thing called ADOPTION. There are so many couples out there that DREAM of parenting a baby that they cannot conceive on their own. My little sis is adopted and due to her biological mother's situation people were all for her having an abortion, but the biological mother kept her baby, gave birth to my sis, and if it wasn't for that my parents would not have been able to adopt her and I cannot even imagine not having her in my life!

2007-01-02 04:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1 3

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