Lots of people stay in marriages for the fear of the unknown. Ultimately, are you happier now that you've divorced?
2007-01-02 03:31:15 · 18 answers · asked by Hear2Help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope we have no kids. Just going down different paths in life I suppose. He's doesn't seem willing to compromise on some very important issues such as Where we live, Where he works (out of state), When we have kids etc. and maybe I'm just realizing that we don't love one another enough at this point in the marriage..although he stresses that HE DOES.. HE DOES...
2007-01-02 03:58:41 · update #1
HE DOES love me that is...and actually DIVOrCE is not in his mind at all...but it is in mine.
2007-01-02 03:59:38 · update #2
The worst part of a divorce it the thinking about it. Once you have made the decision and put it out there its like a huge weight has been lifted and you wonder why you waited so long.
I think the best thing I ever did was to leave my ex-husband and my life is 100% better.
2007-01-02 03:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by smooch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Felt like the world had ended at first. But time has a way of making us realize that what we did was for the best. My ex and I have a 32 year old son and he has graced us with a pair of beautiful granddaughers. We are at a lot of family functions together and actually have a much better relationship now then when we were together. It didn't happen overnight but it is great today. She brings her new husband and I my partner and we all get along well. So in answer yes I am much happier now that we divorced.
2007-01-02 11:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, much happier for it. I had 2 small children and so many people told me to stay for their sake. I thought it would be worse for them to find out that they grew up living in a lie. That their parents had a loveless marriage and were truly unhappy. I have been divorced for almost 7 years and am happily remarried. The unknown was not something that caused me fear. Living without love was something I didnt want to do. I would have rather been divorced and alone than living a lie with someone whom I didnt love and was not capable of loving me.
2007-01-02 11:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by his temptress 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hated getting divorced. Every time something bad in my life happened, I blamed the ex. But, after the years went by, I worked hard at getting my life back on track, I took responsibility for the bad that happened and the good and I felt great. My ex called me when our youngest turned 18 to say that he really missed me and I actually had the courage to tell him what I thought (and we had been divorced for 15 yrs). In the long run, it's was what was best for my children and myself. I have never been happier. Good luck and don't stay just for the kids........sometimes that is the worst thing you can do......... for all of you.
2007-01-02 11:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by FireBug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was hard at first. I always thought 'if I just would have'. Then I realized that I was the only one thinking that way! It brought a calm to me knowing that if I stayed I would have been the one pushing to make things change, and then the one sick of being the sacraficer. The divorce was hard at first, but I'm happier without the burden of making someone accept compromise. My kids are happier now too because they're free to be them without someone continuously raining on their parade.
2007-01-02 12:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by eleven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did regret it. Not because it wasn't the right thing to do, but because I wondered if there was anything I could have done to make it better.
My divorce was not bitter. And we were able to agree without getting lawyers involved. But, I think it is always sad when a marriage ends in divorce, even though it can't be prevented.
2007-01-02 11:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was divorced seven years ago and have no regrets. I tried all I could to save the marriage and got no support from my ex. My current wife and I had problems but worked them out. We are very happy now and glad we did not divorce. Divorce should occur only when all options to save the marriage, including counseling, have failed.
2007-01-02 11:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been wonderful for me......I have been remarried for two years now. This one is nothing like my first. When I got my divorce it was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and for the first time in ten years I could breathe.
2007-01-02 11:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by heaven o 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i was happier .. yes i regretted not doing it earlier in the marriage knew things were going down hill soon after the marriage but the biggest regret was not trying harder after i left so I could fight for custody of my youngest son who i left with him and now he has physical custody of. :(
but no regrets on ending the marriage at all..
2007-01-02 12:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mouseling 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first divorce, I have no regrets! The second divorce was a big mistake and I will always regret not trying harder.
2007-01-02 11:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by stacey h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋