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Well My boyfriend and i have been togehter for 3years now and we are gonna get married in a few years but he wants to have kids now but i am still very young hes gonna be 23 in 7days and he wants to get me pregant i am not sure if we should at least try i mean i love him to death i just dont know if it is a good idea?

2007-01-02 03:27:43 · 17 answers · asked by Angel4fire 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

well another part of it is that he is almost 23 and i am still in highschool for god sake idk I LOVE HIM TO DEATH and i would go to hell and back for him we have gone though so much and i want to make him happy but this is what he wants and i dont know what to do

2007-01-02 03:37:00 · update #1

17 answers

My boyfriend went through that too, just be honest, tell him all about the future you want, the things you want to be able to buy your baby, where you want to live, that sort of thing. If you wait for a few years then you'll be able to buy a house and have a little nursery for your baby, and you'll both have jobs and money to support it and spoil it rotten.

2007-01-02 04:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by floppity 7 · 0 0

Your gut is already telling you that you are not ready yet.

If he really wants to have kids now he should be working on getting you an engagement ring and getting on one knee and proposing first. You are right that 23 is still VERY young and make no mistake, you, as the woman and mother will have to do the bulk of the work (A LOT OF WORK) with those kids. Don't allow him to pressure you into doing anything you're not ready for and if he tries emotional blackmail ("you don't love me" or "I'm going to leave you") that is a clear sign that he is not mature enough for a committed relationship, let alone to be a father.

Good luck!

2007-01-02 03:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 2 0

I wouldn't even plan on getting married at your age! Once you get out of high school and see what the real world is like, then you can make that decision! Having a child with him would not be a wise choice. Enjoy your childhood!!! And why would he be dating a high schooler in the 1st place?!?! That just means he must be immature, so think about that to begin with!

2007-01-02 03:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 0 0

Children deserve to be brought into this world out of love and without reservations.

Having a child together ought to be something that you both agree on, and agree on freely. If you have any reservations about this, then the answer must be a very firm NO. If you want a child and he's not sure, then the answer is still NO.

2007-01-02 03:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I was 22 when I had my baby. It worked out pretty good. Being in your early twenties is the best time to have children. Your body has a much higher chance of bouncing back. And you have a lower risk of complications. Remember the older you get the older your eggs get.
If your having doubts I would wait until your ready. Women who get pregnant who never really wanted to usually suffer from post pardon depression. It's serious stuff. Only do it when your both ready for sure.
Another perk of having your children in your twenties... They go to college when your in your forties!!! That gives you time to enjoy life with your partner doing what ever you want!!!

2007-01-02 03:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

If you have doubts then its a bad idea. Why wait on marriage but have kids now? Why not both now if he is serious? Definately don't get pregnant, your in highschool! You have the rest of your life to have children, but your only in highschool once. Be a kid while you still can.

2007-01-02 03:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by danzahn 5 · 1 0

You are still at highschool?? Don't even THINK about having a baby - you are too young!! Live a little first. It will make you a better mother when the time comes.

2007-01-02 03:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 1 0

Don't do it.. I read your previous questions from 2 months ago and you are still in school and not even dating this guy yet. Priorities honey!! School first.. You need to be able to make it on your own with a child in case he is no longer around after you get pregnant, and that means you have a lot of learning to do!

2007-01-02 03:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by tmac 5 · 3 0

I wouldn't do anything that I didn't want to do, if you're still in high school that's going to make it hard to have a baby. What if you want to go to college? I'm not saying you shouldn't get pregnant if you want to then do it! I'm just saying think about later on in your life Baby's are hard work
Good luck in whatever you decide

2007-01-02 03:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by cirnrab 3 · 0 0

i wouldn't. get married first. at least that way you will know if you can stand each other for the rest of your lives before dragging kids into it. children complicated everything. your life is no longer your own. you have no free time to do the things you want to do.

2007-01-02 03:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1 0

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