2007-01-02 03:26:23 · 30 answers · asked by Reo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it could be fun but ultimately it would only create problems in the relationship serious ones.........
2007-01-02 03:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by snowangel 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would leave, or kick him out which ever served me best. I beleive that a marrage is between two people. If he is bring someone else in, It is because he has already had her and wants his cake and to eat it two. I think most men fantasize about having two women, but there is a fine line between fantasy and reality. Say you allow this to happen and during this physical three incounter you find yourself not as cared for as the other lady or you see him touching her and giving and getting pleasure from another lady while you are right there? How will you ever get that image out of you head or heart> Even worse he wants you to touch this lady and do things that you are grossed out by just so he can feel better about touching her too. Get out and run you deserve better then a man who feels less then satisfied by a woman who loves him. I know you do love him or you would not even be considering this question being posted. The problem is, he does not really love you, no man who asks a woman to do this can possibly love her.
Good Luck hon and RUN
2007-01-02 03:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
RUN as fast as you can. When another person is brought into an intimate relationship like a marriage the the red flags should fly. In my opinion it is the beginning to the end. You may enjoy it in the beginning but in the long run it is a heart breaker. Have more respect for yourself than that. There are other ways to spice up a relationship without bringing in someone else.
Good Luck
2007-01-02 03:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by kellyfl59 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess the obvious answer for me would be" why and lets talk about it" If the relationship was a good one sexually,but this can only be answered by the person looking for a new partner.There are many reasons people are looking for sex outside of marriage, one reason could be "importance" Many women who have husbands that have undergone surgery for prostate and other sexual disorders are looking to for-fill this need. And the same can be said for women who have undergone a historectamy or are just unable to feel aroused. For a younger women who feels a man would not be a good idea and may be a cause for future problems, there can be other solutions if the problem is just sexuale. Kinsey wrote" a relationship may be about love for companionship but sex is a driving force which can be managed." He goes on to include the family pet in a relationship.According to recent studies 15% have included a family pet in there love making.This was based on information volantary given, I`m sure this number is to low
2007-01-02 03:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by tonyflorida2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends... is it a theoretical, a request, or a demand? Does she have a specific person in mind, or does she want me to choose, or does she want to choose together, or does she want permission to go hunting? What will be the nature of this third person? Replace me? Supplement me? Provide something I can't? Strickly cook and clean? Massage and denstist work?
The way I figure it, I'll consider any request, no matter how bizarre, as long as I have the right to say no. If it is a demand, than I'm probably not going to take that very well. If it's theoretical, then we can discuss the theoretical possibilities. If it's a request and I don't like the terms it's laid out in, I can say, "No thanks."
2007-01-02 03:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would keep an open mind. Then I would have to figure out what I really wanted. No matter what I choose, I would talk to my spouse. Tell, him how I feel about the subject. It isnt anything to get a divorce over.
2007-01-02 04:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Malori C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess that would depend on the situation.It is something that goes on all the time but You never really hear of the out come of it all.I guess It would for sure depend on all parties involved.
I mean if your a one women man and don't like the idea of sharing either than it would be a bad idea.
Now if you and your women are comfortable and secure in you're relationship and both feel this would have no bad out come only good than I guess it should be o-k.
2007-01-02 03:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my spouse asked to bring someone else into the relationship, I would say yes, only if it is an attorney!
2007-01-02 03:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by stacey h 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If your spouse needs another person in your relationship than you dont have a relationship, no respect, no love,and no trust. tell them no if they are not happy with that, then leave. you do not need that kind of relationship.
2007-01-02 03:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by carpathian3030 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave.... the marriage is over. That is, if I felt I had a marriage. Since marriage is respect, admiration, passion, and trust, and sexual exclusiveness, if you are not in agreement of this about-to-be arrangement, you don't have the first two items here going for you...... Your spouse is a swinger, and your physical bond is phony, over, as in dead.
2007-01-02 03:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that introducing an extra person would still result in a total of 2 as I would be out the door!
2007-01-02 03:38:12 · answer #11 · answered by smooch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋