My friend threw a 50th bday party for herself. It was cash bar and she asked people to bring food (and a gift was also expected). I brought food and a nice gift. There were tables set up but no assigned seats. It was at a rented condo party room. I noticed she was snubbing me and my husband at the party. Afterwards I stayed to clean up and she was very abrupt and cold to me. When I asked what was wrong..she stated that I had too much fun, sitting at the fun table with people I knew, instead of sitting at the family table with her. She said I didn't give her enough attention and that I should have sat at her table. How was I to know this? What did I do wrong? She still is not talking to me after 2 weeks. I have loaned her money in the past and even my car. Am I being manipulated or what? I am confused and hurt.
2007-01-02 03:13:28 · 6 answers · asked by Penelope Yelsopee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
lets see,your friend gave herself a party,where guests brought the food,and a gift for her. And because YOU had too much fun,and didn't sit at her table,shes mad at you?She should have walked around to each table and greeted the guests! I'm sorry,but she sounds like a 50 yr.old spoiled brat and she needs to grow up! Unfortunately,shes probably been like this for a long time and she probably won't change.Sorry she put you thru this......
2007-01-02 03:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did absolutely nothing wrong. To be 50 years old, she sounds pretty immature. It's like a little kid getting mad because they didn't get exactly what they wanted. You came to the party, brung what was asked for, bought her a gift, and even helped clean up afterwards. She should be greatful of that, instead of throwing a tantrum because you didn't sit at the same table as her. Just ignore her when she tells you that you weren't being a good friend 'cause you most certainly were. I don't know anyone that would complain about that when their friend already did so much for them.
2007-01-02 16:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds very cheap and snobbish and childish. if you throw a party. you dont ask your guests to bring food and a gift. think shes been watching MTV my super sweet 16 party. so what if you had fun. sounds like she was in her pissy mood before the party started. prob due to the fact she turned the big 50. take it as seeing her true colors and just dont waste your time with her. after all shes no friend to treat you like that.
all she had to do was say you know my closest friends can sit at my table.
2007-01-02 11:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jecht 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if your friend has yet to grow up, is reverting back to her child state, or doesn't get enough attention from her family. Just ignore her and say next time I will be sure to sit at the table you are at. Also refuse to engage her in this childish behavior. Misery, truly loves company.
2007-01-02 11:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say your friend has some attention issues. It sounds like she feels you "upstaged" her at her own party. Its just her insecurities shining through.
I would say if you value her friendship to try to make ammends by saying your sorry she felt that way (however i would not go as far to take responcibility for it becuase its really her issues thats at the heart of this).
Try not to lose sleep over it. Some people just arent always the best freinds in return no matter how much effort you put into the relationship.
I would also be wary of how much you do for her in the future. Its always good to help out a friend in need but it doesnt sound to me like she would go out of her way to help you, and thats just not fair to you!
2007-01-02 11:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that normally, the person of honor, in this case her,,, invites the people to sit at her table,,,,, those not specifically asked, would find a place other then the family table if not family,,,,, its all sounds very odd,, to throw a party for yourself, asking people to bring food, and then having a cash bar,,,,, then if you wanted certain people at your table not asking them,,,,,,,,,, i would just accept that she is a little nuts, and perhaps a tad mean,,, instead of thanking you for coming, she is putting you down,,,,,, it was her job as hostess to make sure you had fun and felt good, not your job as guest to do the same for her,,,,,,,,
2007-01-02 11:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋