Are all females naturally insecure? My current GF of 5 months always seems to want to look over my shoulder when I check my phone, email, myspace, etc. Nothing major or drastic, but she evens tells me that she is insecure. My cell phone once slipped out of my pocket while in her car.....she admitted to looking through the entire thing for phone calls, text messages, etc.
I have never cheated on her, in fact, I don't even have very many female friends for her to be worried about.
Based on previous experience/ relationships, I know that those who are insecure or accuse, are more than likely cheating on their partner....I've done it and had it done to me.
Any thoughts? Women: are you insecure...even if just a little bit?
2007-01-02 03:08:54 · 25 answers · asked by ten_looking_for_a_ten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not all of us. But maybe she feels like she isnt good enough for you, thats why she may be insucure.
Make her know that you love her, do something specail for her :D
2007-01-02 03:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens in the initial stage of a relationship. The first year together is filled with such problems. But its upto you to establish the fact that you love her more than anything in the world (if u do ;) ..). She needs some time to understand you better. You both need some time. In the meantime just hang in there, admire her more. Show her lots of affection and care for her very much. She will soon realise that you have no such interests in other women.
Its not about insecurity, its about the image women have about men. Most women think men are cheats and dont trust them very easily! Especially if they have had such experiences before. they r just being careful.
2007-01-02 03:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Someday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason I think that is true, that a lot of women are insecure. I think if the lines of communication are open she will be more secure. And I think that the older women get the more secure they get. If she is accusing you of things and you are not doing them beware because it is a real pain in the butt to have someone so insecure that they question your every move and are always checking up on you. I have found that if you are on the up and up and someone can't trust you that usually they are the one with the trust issues, not you.
2007-01-02 03:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by healergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this relationship has already failed. It's one thing for a woman to be insecure about herself. But in this case, it seems like she's mroe insecure about you.
This may not be your fault. Usually it's a previous boyfriend(s) that have damaged the female in the past and she associates all men with the bad experiences.
Difficult to break women from this. Only thing I can recommend is try to figure out a way to make her trust and be open.
2007-01-02 03:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by shiroi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No not all. There are a few whiney little things around but for the most part women are very independent. Even in the animal kingdom...the females are the bravest and toughest.
You have what is called a clinger or a leech. They have low self esteem and want to hang on to a man for dear life.
It's up to you....do you want to be with someone so immature or have a real relationship?
2007-01-02 03:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by curious cat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Often they're insecure because they've had partners betray them repeatedly for no good reason. If your girlfriend is insecure, but you trust she's not cheating, then the best thing you can do is try that much harder to prove yourself trustworthy. If you really care about her, the extra effort will be worth it, and you'd be helping her get over her trust issues, too.
2007-01-02 03:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fool us once shame on them, fool us twice shame on us. Get it, women normally have had a bad experience that has caused them to react that way and it is just a way of protecting themselves from further heartache. Kind of like trying to see into the future. Should women trust until proven guilty? Maybe, but it doesn't ease our minds any. I had never done that with anyone I ever dated until he did a few shady things and I did keep an investigative eye on him until I felt I could trust him again. On the flip side, I have had boyfriends that have done this to me without just cause, so I guess it is up to the individuals on how they deal with trust issues.
2007-01-02 03:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do admit i was insecure at first even after being married, and then i didn't anymore. I guess because we just don't want to be used and then disposed of. Men are known as players, kind of. I didn't have someone on the side. I just felt that way.
2007-01-02 03:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by bluemist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some have been through abusive relationships in the past and as such need to develop a trust in their current relationships as they feel history may repeat itself. Others just have low self esteem. But these are the minority as I believe that the majority are confident enough in themselves to not have these feelings of insecurity. Just as we only hear of bad kids we only hear about ladies that have issues and not the ones that are well balanced.
2007-01-02 03:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a woman who has came from past relationships that have been bad so i tend to be insecure even though my husband has never gave me any reason to be this way it is something we work on together and I hope that someday i will be completely secure in our marriage
2007-01-02 03:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insecurity is normal in everybody, but like everything, there is a point where is not normal or healthy. If she is insecure but trusts you, she would've not gone through your stuff. you might want to talk to her about it cause if it has only been 5 months and she's already like that, imagine how she will be if you think about living together
2007-01-02 03:26:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋