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friends with an ex or in contact with them? and if they are, are you okay with that?

2007-01-02 02:53:18 · 21 answers · asked by HoneyZ2 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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I have found that nothing but trouble comes out of that. My current wife dated a guy for 6 years before me. When i found out that he was still calling after they broke up, i didnt want my time wasted if she was still living in the past. I told her in order for us to go forward she would have to sever ties with him. She chose to do this and we have been happily married for 14 years.

2007-01-02 02:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by hank 3 · 2 0

It would depend on why they are in contact..if it has to do with mutual children that they share and it is trying to get along for the children's sake, that would be a good reason. Not exactly a comfortable position, but if your current flame is in to you and not the ex, they would/should include you in the process and having to deal with the ex and make it clear to that ex that your input in valuable to the the unit of everyone involved as a whole.

If there are no children involved, then the current flame, even if they have developed just a friendship with the ex, needs to put you as a priority in order for the relationship to work. Someone that keeps running back to their ex, and even worse, their ex permitting it, is a big sign of trouble and you need to re-evaluate being in the relationship.

2007-01-02 11:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0 0

My boyfriend is not in contact with any of his exes because I don't play that bullshit and if he was he would soon be my ex. Exes are exactly that for a reason, if you don't have mutual friends or kids then K.I.M.(keep it moving) I wouldn't even give a damn if there were mutual friends, still there should be no contact with an ex in a relationship at all. As you would hear,I don't have any contact with my exes my boyfriend doesn't play that bullshit as well. I hope this answers your question.Good luck

2007-01-02 10:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by supergirl331117 3 · 1 1

Yes because I know who I am and where I am in my relationship with my man so I don't worrie about ex's sim;ly because if it's not over what's done in the dark will come to light so why waste your energy over that enjoy the time that you guys have together and leave that ex alone. some times people become best friends after they split up that don't always mean they want each other so don't hate on someone resolving their issues just taake care of yours while you have him.

2007-01-02 11:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by miss out spoken 3 · 0 0

The past is the past, and to go tampering with it, its something someone is unsure about. It's not insecurity, if you have no sort of connection with this person (children), what could you possibly be getting from an ex. When you've moved on and you're through, you forgive, forget, and eventually get over it.

2007-01-02 13:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by iNlOvEwItHaSoLdIeR 2 · 0 0

me and my bf see his ex a lot. we both talk to her, and we both give her a hug hello or goodbye.they only dated fro about 7 months, but were engaged. i think the reason i don't mind, is because there is absolutely no flirting or looks to each other, and i am a lot prettier than her and skinnier. And she is a little odd, and he see that now. Plus they never had sex. Shes a religious person. they only messed around. So that might also b y i can handle it.

2007-01-02 11:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by mozartbuffy69 3 · 0 0

Not really cauase no matter what your feelings that you had never really die from that person they are just hidden and buried into your soul buti guess its ok. Cause my boyfriend tlk 2 one of his ex and she still calls him her boyfriend i am a jealous type but 4 sum reason it didnt piss me off as much and why cause i kno that he is not wit her and at the end of the day he'll be coming home to me.

2007-01-02 10:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Actually, my boyfriends' ex and I are really good friends. I've known her since 8th grade but really didnt get to know her until I got to know him (they were already broke up for a while) but he still talks to her and so do I, She's out of state in college but when she's intown we all hang out together. I see no problem with it, and its never been awkward.

2007-01-02 12:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa.Jo 1 · 0 0

My BF is in contact with his ex-GF's cousin/best friend, and yes, it bothers me. His ex was trying to get him to "hook up" with her, knowing he was with me. So, I made it clear that I didn't think it was appropriate for him to talk to her, seeing that she's trying to get him to cheat.

But he's talking to her cousin, who she hangs out with every day, and that makes me uncomfortable, too. There's no way that he can talk to the cousin without talking to the ex-GF at some point.

So no, I don't like it. If the ex-GF wasn't such a skeezy scumbag, I wouldn't care.

2007-01-02 11:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0 0

I am in a 6 year relationship with someone, and also keep in friendly terms with an ex because of the children...neither one of us have a problem with it, but then again, we are adults....How old are you? Insecurity among teenagers and young adults is one of the major problems in keeping a relationship together.

2007-01-02 10:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by trivia buff 5 · 2 0

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