If this woman was your girlfriend/wife, would you think she was a "good" one?
1. She has a pretty face, a nice body, and she takes care of her appearance.
2. She handles all the household bill-paying, shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, car maintenance, etc. The ONLY things she asks you to do are keep a job and walk the dog.
3. She doesn't nag or complain, and doesn't waste energy on trivial, insignificant things. She doesn't like to argue and she avoids conflicts.
4. She enjoys sex, and tries hard to keep things interesting and fun.
5. She owns her own business and brings home a decent salary. She doesn't ask you for money, only that you pay half the rent and utilities.
Being human, she has flaws...but her flaws are minor and aren't hurtful to anyone. Overall, she's a good person and she tries hard.
Would you think she was a "good" girlfriend/wife?
2007-01-02 02:51:59 · 9 answers · asked by Heather C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess I'm asking because my BF seems only to nit-pick and magnify my flaws, rather than appreciating my good qualities. He's constantly complaining about such trivial things, and I'm starting to wonder whether I'm "good" enough.
2007-01-02 02:55:12 · update #1
No, I do not think I am "all that". I don't act that way in the least. I'm asking a serious question.
2007-01-02 03:10:44 · update #2
Appears he has a low self esteem. That is what people that nitpick do. They pick on your flaws to somehow try to make themselves look better. You sound like a catch. If i was single i would be asking you for your phone number:). One thing in life i have always believe. Dont settle. A good relationship is a two way street. If he is continually picking on you that is border line being mentally abusive. You can either live with it or move on. Best of luck.
2007-01-02 03:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by hank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question....A 'good' girlfriend or wife may mean different things to different people. In a fantasy world, your descriptions would be a 'good' start to a perfect woman, but this isn't a perfect world. Us visually stimulated dudes do like women who take care of themselves, but don't go overboard with it. Some girls not as pretty or sexy in my mind might just be what another guy is looking for. If she does everything, and all I do is go to work, I would feel like a complete loser. I am not going to sit around and watch my wife/girl do everything and I do nothing. I hate arguing too, but if something bothers me, then we better be able to comfortably sit and talk them out. I am not going to stress myself out because a few things bother me and we can't discuss them. Bottled up/pent-up anger is bad to keep to yourself. Sex,..once you stop being inventive and spontaneous it pretty much is just an average thing. Keeping it fun and interesting is a good way to keep us happy together. Salary and whatever else means squat to me. Maybe others think money is what you need, but I totally disagree on that. I'll take a great relationship with a poor girl over a constant bickering relationship with a rich girl any day. All I can ask for is her to keep trying, and I will too.
2007-01-02 11:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Matt L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being human, she has flaws...but her flaws are minor."
Did you ever realize your trying to control your world, and since he part of your world your controlling him. You asked what makes a good girlfriend a good wife? Its all the same, a good girlfriend and a good wife is a friendship a partnership.Just think for a moment if the rolls where reversed and he was you and he controlled your life how would it feel? Suggestion to you would be give him some slack don`t criticize him loosen up if you want to keep this guy.
2007-01-02 12:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by tonyflorida2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound great. I have a wife that is a pessimist control freak so nothing is ever good enough. I just laugh and accept that she feels better picking on stupid things. I know I frustrate her, but I'm here to make her world perfect.
2007-01-02 12:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do you listen to him I read what you said it sounds like you are in love with your self like your all of that what you wrote sounds like you are mechanical just relax I,ve had women like you are you overly clean what I mean is in sex does everything have to be right and there are some men like me that no matter what you do it will never be enough I have one more thing did you pursue him or did he come after you it make a difference
2007-01-02 11:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why he's finding fault all the time. Maybe you should ask him what is wrong?
I think you should add this to your list for possible life-mate though:
6. Not Crazy.
2007-01-02 11:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds likes you are a "good" girl but apparently he doesn't appreciate it. I am not so "good" but my man loves me to death. Maybe you are just not compatible.
2007-01-02 11:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by Candy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is all true then by all means you are one special girl.
2007-01-02 11:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by finished 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there ARE two sides to every story...maybe since you think you are "all that" he is put off by you, ever think of that?!
2007-01-02 11:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋