They would just of moaned anyway.
2007-01-02 02:39:08 · 70 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
NOTHIN AT ALL.
THE BORING OLD FARTS...
STAY AWAY....
2007-01-02 02:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 19⤋
say WHAT?! Yes, you were very wrong. Christmas is a time to spend with families whether you like it or not. Do it for them and not for yourself. How 'elderly' are they anyway? 50's? You sound like you're a young guy and think people who are old enough to be your parents are ancient. (I'm 35). Anyway, your poor mother surely 'moaned' and screamed when you were born into this world and the very least you could do is allow them to enjoy a dinner with you. If you have normal parents, they worked hard to raise you, so be ncie to them. They love you.
2007-01-02 07:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Just me. 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if they moaned, they are your parents after all. And Christmas is a time that should be spent with your families.
You obviously feel guilty about it, otherwise you wouldn't be asking the question. If it was an issue that they don't get along with your partner, then just take them out on your own now, to make up for it.
They are not gonna be around for ever, and then you will regret your actions. Better to resolve your situation with them now, explain to them how you feel, maybe they will understand.
Good Luck
2007-01-03 02:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sunni 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know what i wrote i agree with you then after reading comments i was just being bitter like YOU cause you know what every christmas i spend by myself as i have no family that is a empty feeling....to think you just cast your parents of cause of age and moaning is really wrong....how do you think they felt christmas how do you know they had a meal prepared they might have spent it alone like me whilst you sat on your table cutting your turkey and all for what two less a plate
actually very heartless if i was you go get your parents take them out for a big meal with the family and say i am sorry mom and dad you mean alot to me and what i done was wrong just been a little stress or some thing and show them you still care....and tell them you never want them to miss another meal
2007-01-02 17:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by MissTee 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously having second thoughts about this and are bothered by what happened or you wouldn't be asking. I have no idea what your history is with your parents, but I often feel that we gain more than we loose when we extend a kindness to someone, even if we don't feel like it and they don't deserve it. I believe that relationships are the hardest things of life, and at every turn we are told to give up on it. It is much harder to hang in, and then that is where the benefits come. I grew up in a difficult home and have persevered in relationship with my parents for years when truthfully I could have just blown them off and gone on with my life. It has not been easy, and many times it is my sacrifice. Yes, I have boundaries and balance in my life, but by choosing relationship, I feel that I have honored them and showed them something about goodness and love that they would not have otherwise learned. If in contemplating these things you feel you made a mistake, let them know it and when the opportunity presents, invite them back for dinner. It is never too late to set things right.
2007-01-02 02:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by Concerned50 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid you were wrong, IMHO.
They would just moaned anyway, huh? Like they didn't hear you cry, moan and whine, not to mention clearn your dirty butt for years? There's gratitude for ya. I don't even want to think about the heartache this casued them.
I also wonder how much "moaning" you'd be willing to put up with if you needed something from them.
IMHO you'll probably get paid back double by your own children some day when THEY exclude you from a family event because YOU would just moan anyway. It's called poetic justice. One last thing: You say they're elderly? Then many here are correct. You wont' have them around for much longer. But my thing is that guilt is a horrible, horrible thing. It can eat us alive. When someone in our lives die, the regrets for things we did, or things we should have done but didn't, make things worse. Instead letting them go in peace because they were old and no one lives forever, you'll wish you'd done things differently. I hope at some point you can make peace with this.
DN? It was Harry Chapin who sang "Cat's in the Cradle". :-) That was a very good application of the song.
2007-01-02 02:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by Q&A Queen 7 · 12⤊ 1⤋
Once an adult twice a child; your time will come and you will be refused the same way. I used to work in a nursing home and Charismas and Thanksgiving was the hardest for these elderly because they felt that their family didn't want them around anymore. I have learned a few things from them and I would NEVER refuses them for being part of a family function....If it wasn't because of my grandmother or mother I wouldn't be here today.
2007-01-02 02:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by karenhenry3 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A reasonable person would have insisted that their parents STAY for Christmas dinner. At Christmas, most ppl try to show some Christmas spirit and turning away your parents isn't showing Christmas spirit.
2007-01-04 17:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Santa C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you were wrong, as a grandparent I was not invited to my sons' house, and as my daughter who last year caused a family rift I was not invited to her house, her son has a birthday on christmas eve and as she has changed phone numbers was unable to wish him happy christmas/birthday, I felt dreadful. I am very modern in my outlook and don't go round interfering in my kid's lives but felt totally rejected, so perhaps your parents felt the same, both my parents have passed away also husband and would give anything tohave them back especially at christmas.
Please next year rethink your motives, life is too short for all this animostity.
2007-01-02 02:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by poetrygirl on line 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were one of your elderly parents - I don't think I'd want to have Christmas dinner with you! How selfish and cold-hearted can you be? Look into your soul dear friend and look deep, before it's too late, one day you'll be old and uninvited to Christmas dinner - how will that feel?
2007-01-02 21:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible person. You only have one set of parents and they will not be with you for ever. Yours if they are elderly will not be with you that long now. I don't doubt that when they die you will be happy to take what is left to you. All for the sake of a Christmas dinner. Shame on you.
2007-01-02 02:43:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋