2007-01-02 02:32:23 · 23 answers · asked by Alex T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think it is fine as long as both people are committed to the relationship and to the potential child and the couple is physically, emotionally, and financially ready to take on parenthood.
2007-01-02 02:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How does your partner feel? I have a similar issue. If you got married legally that's the day you will remember as your wedding day no matter what. You can have a beautiful expensive all out wedding and still look back and say i got married way before that day. If you would like to have a baby before you have the white gown and church bells... That's fine. Maybe your little one can be involved. And dont call it your wedding day. Call it the day you got remarried. The only thing is both children and weddings are very time consuming and expensive. Really think it through and i hope you love the choice you make no matter what it is.
2007-01-02 11:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by queenmeow16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are legally married by the mayor or justice of the peace or something like that but didn't have an actually wedding with family and friends you are still married and able to do whatever you want as a married couple. and if it isn't officially a legal marriage and just an agreement between the two of you then i still don't think it matters. cause my husband and i had our first daughter out of wedlock, but we knew at that time we wanted to be together forever and get married. we have been together now for 4 1/2 years and have a 3 year old daughter and we just married in dec. 2006. but on the other hand if you are a minor or are still living at home with your parents then i would say you should at least wait until you are a little older and move into your own place. but i don't know your whole situation so that is why i gave you a few different ways to look at it. good luck it whatever you do!
2007-01-02 10:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you are married on paper then so what. You guys are married. Just because you didn't have a wedding doesn't mean anything. I had a huge wedding and honestly would have rather went to the courthouse and then had a very large vacation. I think that if you are ready to have kids then go for it. Having a wedding isn't always everything, but if your wife wants it, of course you should go for it. Just weigh your options and communicate on your thoughts............Good luck!
2007-01-02 13:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by lilsnob8681 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What importance is the wedding to you? If you are married already (you don't have to have a wedding to be married, signing the papers means your married, end of story) you have started your family (by adding your wife to it) already!
I think it can be cute to have your children in your wedding if you are waiting and trying to save money, etc. or renewing your vows! Think how cute your daughter could be as a flower girl or your son as a ring bearer!
I don't think being married and having children are really relient on each other, though.
2007-01-02 10:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think being married on paper but not having the wedding yet is a little odd, but I can understand having a baby before the wedding. No woman is going to want to be massivly pregnant on her wedding day, or her wedding night.
2007-01-02 10:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that because legally you are already married. Don't worry about what anyone will say at the wedding, that's your day not there's so to hell with anyone that has a problem with it. Have a great wedding, good luck.
2007-01-02 10:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jazz21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is not necessary to be married. If it is on paper, you are legally married, so go for it!
2007-01-02 10:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by "married on paper" you mean that you were officially married by a legally recognised process outside of the church, then you are MARRIED period. Church weddings are merely one of a number of recognised, legal agencies able to perform marriages recognised under law.
2007-01-02 10:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your married, so whats the problem?!?!?! Having a wedding is only a tradition, it's pretty much pointless except for the memories.
2007-01-02 10:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband and I had two kids before our 'wedding' but three years after being married on paper. We felt it was just fine, his folks were thrilled to have grandbabies, but my family looked down on it. Depends on your outlook I suppose. My grandfather still tells me we better hurry up and have the wedding :)
2007-01-02 10:34:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋