Why is it that married men with wives who are sexy still go on sex websites and look at playboy? Is it that they would rather have a wife that looked like the playboy females? Don't they realize that it hurts us and makes us feel bad.
2007-01-02 01:58:07 · 27 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if it hurts, let him know. Are you two in church, because if you are, he really wouldn't be doing that ( a true Christa in).
Men don't look at it bc they want 'us' to look like them, it's all due to aesthetic reasons...
But if you really want him to cease, let him catch you looking at naked men 'ALL' the time...:)
2007-01-02 02:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Khandi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if every woman in the world looked like a playboy bunny, the same husband's would still be feeding their sex appetite by online porn, magazine's, etc. It's not their wives, it's the husband's addiction to porn. Every man that I know that admits to looking at it, also cheats on their wives, and admits that as well. That's not to say that every man does. I'm sure there are some that just look. Men think that we are over reacting to the situation, when we clearly are not. My ex always looked at porn. At first, I didn't have an issue. I was told, "all men do it". Then, I thought he was cheating, and he was. Of course that ended the marriage!
2007-01-02 10:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy! I am absolutely sure you still observe that some men are sexy and others are not. You may even say to your friends, " Hey he is cute/sexy.:" Does that make you bad? No!
Women! Yes I am talking to you. Men are visual creatures. How can I say this truthfully with hurting your feelings. Your husband may know it hurts you but I think you are making this too much your issue. It is not an issue unless he acts on it. Simply looking does not mean that you are not sexy enough, not appealing to him, or he is cheating. It only means that he is still a man and enjoys looking at beautiful women.
I fully understand your fears but I can say that there are far worst things to be concerned with other than your husband looking at sexy or naked women. Instead of making it an issue use it to your advantage. Use this as a way of finding out what he likes about it and incorporate it into your bedroom. You know add a bit of spice to things. Instead of seeing the negative in it make it a positive.
2007-01-02 10:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most men for some wild reason when they look up things like that don't take their partners feelings into account, Even more so when you have a little bundle of joy on the way. My advice to you is bring it to his attention and see what he says, Tell him how it makes you feel and don't hold it back. Sometimes being BLUNT is the best way, the key is not to be rude or nasty. Do it in a playful way and see what he says... the truth will come out.
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2007-01-02 10:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Diablõ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it just something that you have to accept. I like to think although I am the mother of two I am still very sexy. Am I Playboy material? Probably not. But I am a real woman and I am his. I know I am the one he wants however much he may look at other women, especially the engineered ones in Playboy.
2007-01-02 10:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
They don't realize what it would be like if the shoe were on the other foot. Most men are like this. Next time you go out with your girlfriends, dress sexy (but not over-the-top, just enough to catch his eye). If he gets jealous, say "so what if someone looks at me?" Or, put your scantily clad picture somewhere on line and find out a way to make him "accidentally" see it. Say, "they're just looking. what's the big deal?" I told my husband, "hey, if you're going to give attention elsewhere, I can get attention elsewhere". Things are different now.
2007-01-02 10:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a lady but I know the answer to your question. Your husbands sexual appetite is a whole lot stronger than yours. So instead of keeping you open like 7-11, he masturbates. But he has to look at something to help him along. There are alot of men who wont do this and they actually cheat. Be glad that you have a good man who is thinking about you, while is simultaneously relieving himself. If he werent, he would not be using his hand. Yes, it really is that simple. Women tend to put more thought than needed to try and figure out a man, we are simple creatures. Yet, you all would rather refer to us as dogs. That one I still havent figured out. Because if we are dogs, then what would that make you all? Horses reproduce with horses, and cats, with cats. Humans cannot reproduce with anything but humans.
2007-01-02 10:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
LIZ. To understand the "act" you have to understand the "man". No beating round' da bushitt. He loves you! Make no mistake about it. He is all about you. He makes love to you. We are sexual monsters and that's NEVER gonna change. We fantisize and have unlimited access to sex on the web. Yes it's degrading, Yes it's disgusting but unfortunately a part of human society. At least he's not gay,Chica. GOD BLESS and Good Luck
2007-01-02 17:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by HARDBALZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's looking at these websites he's not comparing them to you. It's a healthy outlook to having variety in his life without cheating on you. If you can honestly say that you go every day without finding any other man attractive and wondering what it'd be like to be with him then maybe you don't understand. But if you have experienced that then you may get what he's thinking. He doesn't want to cheat so looking at pictures is harmless fantasy. This way he's getting himself turned on and then coming home to you. If it really bothers you then talk to him about it, ask him about his motives. If it's something you can live with then do so. In fact try looking at things together. Find a website with pictures you can both enjoy and use it to spice things up.
2007-01-02 10:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by blhenne 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
in fact any one even the woman gets fed up with one man that's natural so does man besides woman's have so many issues from menu pause to kids that she is not in a position to adore her husband thirdly its very natural that a sexy babe looks pretty than ones own wife since her contours of body are known and a new woman even less beautiful is more horny and is like a mountain to be explored
other than the above Adam was with eve and eve took him from heaven to earth whether for one or the other reason man is by psyche going to be trapped by woman whom he has not explored
woman have also there own circle of woman 9sometimes man Friends also) where they share the man of their choice so its reciprocal
2007-01-02 10:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by hayatashah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not a woman, but I can tell you that it is not meant to hurt you in anyway. In my case I look because it somewhat forbiden. Wifves always say look but don't touch right, so there you have it, just looking should not hurt anyone!
2007-01-02 10:14:06 · answer #11 · answered by Solow254 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋