I had very abusive parents. I was not allowed to be happy. I was not allowed to relax. It was constant dirty looks and mental and emotional torture. I've developed similar facial expressions as my parents and other people can't stand being around me. How can I just get rid of this stiffness?
2007-01-02 01:56:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Alvaro your situation is very sad and unfortunate.
I really think u should go for councelling if u are willing to do this since it helps people get through tough times. Tru if other people knew ur real reason for acting this way then they would be more amicable to you and it might help to overcome ur problems but u see people u meet dont know this and probably think u are proud. Please get some help
2007-01-02 02:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lara D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need a good friend you can trust so you can talk some of this stuff out, or maybe a counselor if you have trust issues.
I am extremely shy, so much that I have to force myself to go to the occasional parties that my oldest friends throw. This was the first year (out of five) that I showed up for the holiday party at work. This is the closest thing to a chat room I have ever visited. Thats how shy I am.
OK, this is how I make it through social gatherings: I have a few drinks-not enough to get sloppy, enough to relax my guard. I begin to open up and enjoy myself. BTW, my avatar may smile, but I rarely do. It just doesn't seem to fit.
Oh, I tend to get on well with strangers-maybe because I know I won't see them again, so there's no pressure.
2007-01-02 14:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by tombollocks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. You realize there's a problem, so you're well on the way to fixing it.
I was raised in a similar environment. I felt extremely self-aware for a loooong time. Growing up where everything you say is wrong or stupid isn't fun!
I eventually came to realize that my parents had issues and problems. It was them, not me! They were too critical and that's not my fault. What is my fault is that I let if effect me for too long. I had that choice and you do to!
Give yourself a break. Here's what I've learned about socializing with others; People love to talk about themselves. Look them in the eye and ask questions about them. It's about them, not you. When you speak to them, keep eye contact, nod, appear interested and pleasant. LISTENING IS THE GREATEST COMPLIMENT.
People will think you're interesting and smart for letting them go on about themselves. They like to talk about what interests them.
It totally takes the pressure off of you. You don't have to worry about saying the wrong thing.
Think about the other person and you won't feel so self-aware.
2007-01-02 10:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by M C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very easy look at in the mirror and see what kind of expression your face was giving. See if you are happy in that expression and if you don't, then start smiling and see what feeling you will get. Cheers. Don't let anyone be the judge of who you are and start loving yourself.
2007-01-02 10:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by linda c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many drugs on the market, go see your doctor and explain your situation and they may prescribe one. Do not go searching for your own but only thru professional advice and prescription.
2007-01-02 10:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the people you were around knew the truth they would think differently. maybe you should start taking leed for yourself and standup for yourself and do things your own way. dont let your parents ruin your life
2007-01-02 10:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by andrew 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dream as if you may live to be a hundred; Live as if you will die suddenly today !
2007-01-02 10:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋