I cant stop talking about people but I dont want to how can I stop being negative?

Answer 1

I am a negative person myself. I find it hard to be positive considering the state of the world we live in. Sorry to feel that way but it is true.

Answer 2

I am exactly the same, I think it's the negative people's effect on us & how annoying they are. I now think, for all the talking, thinking I'm wasting another minute of my precious time I could be enjoyng myself. I have decided to find an affirmation or mantra &(a positive one) & concentrate on that. It could be anything such as: I am positive or I am love or i love myself.
it not only takes ur mind off the negativity, but also the affirmations will slowly change ur life & u find you're becoming more positive or whatever u want 2 change.

Answer 3

You need to think of the postives in life- comon its 2007. The reason u think negative, is because its very easy to see negatives in our own achievements, e.g. im not very good, i think she doesn't like me, etc.

Remember you can never tell what someone else is thinking. Don't take ur asumptions about people as truth- after all they are only at very best just a guess! Don't try to guess wot people are thinkin!

Most people talk about others and put them down to try and feel better about themselves. Don't do it!

For you to stop all this talking about ppl, u gota start seeing the positives in everythin, yourself and surroundings.

e.g. "I only have one bloody friend, but everyone else seems to have loods of friends"

Thats a negative thought, chances are your 1 friend is probably a very special close friend, and someone you can really talk to. You should value that friendship and see it as a good thing.

Or

you think u hav a sh!t car.

well you could say "well i've got my own home"

Just be yourself- i'ts easy to get wound up about little silly things, but just keep tellin urself u only got one life, so be happy and enjoy life!

Peace and positivity for 2007!

Answer 4

Try this exercise: At the end of the day, think of three positive things that happened to you that day.

It may take some time, so have patience with yourself -- and if you come up with only one for awhile, that's fine!

I'm a pretty cynical type, myself, but that's something I recommended to my wife awhile ago, because she tends to feel negative about things. Believe it or not, it really has had a positive impact.

Good luck!

Answer 5

for every negative thought try to come up with a positive one ... I hate the way she keeps saying "like" all the time but she really had a good story tell.

I can't say for sure if it works but at least you'll appear less negative ... I try to do this so that I realize that there is a good side to people even if they're getting on my last nerve.

good luck

Answer 6

I used to say a lot of negative stuff, and I thought I was smart to be able to discern these problems. Let me tell you, other people don't think you're smart if you complain a lot. They think you're a pain in the butt.

I think what made a difference for me was having kids. People would make positive comments about my kids and it felt so good. People who criticized me (That baby needs socks!) would not change my behavior and they just irritated me. I thought about how much I liked having positive comments and how I saw the person who made them in a positive light. So I started saying nice things about other people and their kids.

So anyway. Say something nice today!

Answer 7

The question is what are you getting out of your negativity. You can talk about other people without being negative but it is the negativity you seem to concentrate on. Perhaps You feel better by putting others down so that your own shortfalls are not highlighted.
It's normal to chat about other people and gossip but we can also chat about others and highlight their positivity instead. Start by getting to like yourself more and be proud of your achievements. Don't try to fit in by putting others down as those who listen to you may be wary of what you may be saying about them behind their back.
When we feel good about ourselves we transfer that to others in our actions to them and how we think and feel about them and ourselves. Try to look at positve views about yourself which others can relate to and consider your good points. What are the good qualities we see in others which are universally acceptable. Look at those and consider why we cherish such attributes in others. It may be about the need for people to get on with each other probably based on our pack-animal background.
We need to feel good about ourselves and we seek to do this in myriad ways. Some feel good being negative about others in the belief that others find this entertaining or informative. How much do you care about what people think about you. You may not be negative about others if you felt better about yourself.
You alone know what's going on inside you so be true to yourself and work out what is actually going on inside you. Maybe you are so clued up that everyone else seems dull. You may not have got over a difficulty in your past and act out your displeasure by dissing people.
Asking for answers about this means that you are a good person inside, just continue to develop this and consider how you'd feel if you knew how others may be talking about you.
More Peace

Answer 8

It's not negativity, it's passive-aggressive behavior. People who talk about people need to vent about them and so they gossip to others. You need to learn how to express yourself to the people directly that you have a gripe with. It's the mature thing to do.

Answer 9

I guess you just have to think that you know, if you talk about others then everyone would think you're really bitchy and start talking about you! Just look at people and try to find something nice about them, "she's such a moran, but she isn't being nasty about it" that sort of thing.

Answer 10

Try being an optimist and see the good in yourself and others. Look at your self is the first step in seeing others.