Further, would you advise any young man to get married?
2007-01-02 01:48:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
great question! this is on my watchlist. but why aren't you asking women too?
2007-01-02 01:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Honestly...I wouldn't. As we grow older you tend to learn a lot about life and the person you are. Only you know what you want out of life, as well as partner. I recently got married on the 21st of dec, and I couldn't be more happy. I have truly found my better half. The advise I would give would have to be...be patient. Everyday isn't gonna be marital bliss. I mean even before my wife and I got married, there were some bad days. but those days shape your relationship and strengthens the bond that you two have created. And remember its a dance you perfect with time... TIME. Be true to her, and most importantly be honest. Trust is the easy thing to lose, yet the hardest to ever get back! I hope it works out for you... let me know how it turns out yakmonsta@yahoo.com
2007-01-02 09:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by OPTIMUS DIME 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I would get married. I have been married for 2.5. years and I am very happy. I got married when I was 28. I would advise any young man to be patient, picky and pray. Make sure she is the one for you and take things slow. Make sure the woman has something to bring into the relationship just as you do (realistic goals).
2007-01-05 18:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and I am married. If I had to start over in my relationship, of course I would get married. The thing is, you have to be sure that you found the right one. If you know for a fact that she is the right one, then do it. If you have second thoughts about it, hold off until you know it is the right time.
2007-01-02 10:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by young grown man 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. The only way I would get married, knowing what I know now is only if the bride was a rich elderly woman in very poor health. As far a advising younger men on getting married, I wouldn't give them any advice on this matter. Why should I? They wouldn't listen to it the same way I wouldn't listen to it when I was young. They have to make their own mistakes in life and hopefully learn from them.
2007-01-02 09:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by Do You See What Happens Larry? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would not inflict myself on anyone again.
Wait to get married.
Find out if she is sexually compatible with you. I don't just mean screw her, I mean ask & determine if she will stop having sex after marriage. About 85% do. If they say one thing and do another, that's a good indicator. And it takes time to discover such traits. It's supremely frustrating and it will only get worse.
Plus you need to know more about yourself. If the sex goes south, are you the cheating kind? Then don't get married. Because that part of you won't change.
Sorry to focus on sex but it is a huge deal - men expect sex to be on-demand 24/7/365 after marriage and it isn't like that AT ALL. You hardly ever get any sex, especially after a kid comes along. And it's a huge deal-breaker.
You have been warned.
2007-01-02 09:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have been happily married for over twenty years and I am not sure what I would do if given that chance.
The only two negatives I find over the years are:
1) Having to explain and justify things I do or opinions I have.
2)This stupid 1 partner only sex bullsh@t. I can play golf with whoever I want, or play tennis with whoever I want but I can only have sex with her.
Women don't understand that sex is the greatest sport of all and that men love to play it.
2007-01-02 10:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I don't think I would. I love my daughter and that's the greatest thing. But, everything changed after she was born. My wife became selfish and less loving towards me.
2007-01-02 13:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by tHEwISE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would spend a lot more time "playing the field" and a lot less time trying to work things out with dating. Don't marry until your 35... EVER!! It seems today women want he "******" guy that treats them like crap...forget the nice guy that cares...he's a looser!
2007-01-02 09:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
i believe that the only reason to get married is if you want kids. i tried it and it did not work but i do have my daughter so i would not change a thing. but do i believe in marriage? no
2007-01-02 09:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by bone 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes and yes
2007-01-02 09:51:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋