Its like this...i split with my long term partner more than a year ago..and im still not interested in anyone else, we are still good friends but i can't seem to move on - i still love him and want to be with him, i need to know the best way to get over someone cos time hasn't healed the pain!
2007-01-02 01:42:03 · 18 answers · asked by sarah s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am going through the same thing.I have not moved on either.I try to keep myself busy with friends and the gym.I go out with friends and I joined a church.It helps.Do nice things for myself and wish him happiness even thoughits not with you. One day you will meet someone.Take good care of yourself and keep busy.I wish you all the best and remember to be good to you.What goes around comes around so i am told. goodluck
2007-01-02 02:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by canteloupesweet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always a tough one. What you need to do is have as much change in your life as possible. Move away, move abroad even, change jobs, do something different that changes the pattern your life is taking.
What you can't do is keep him as a friend because that isn't working. While you are still friends you are fooling yourself that one day he will wake up and realise what a big mistake he has made and want to get back with you. Tell him how you feel, ask if there is any chance of getting back together, and when he says no, tell him you can't be friends because it hurts too much.
Good luck and if you're still heart broken, I'll take you out for a date or a shoulder to cry on :)
2007-01-02 01:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Status: Paranoia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have your own place or still live with parents? I would suggest declutter, you know clean throw out stuff you don't need and that will keep your mind occupied. Also think of some things you need to do for yourself. Such as new hair do, manicure, facials etc. These are things you can do for yourself and it will keep your mind occupied. Do you like to read? Well search this on the web, and this will help you understand relationships too: type in ego vs soulmates, unconditional love, what is true love. And try to buy these 2 books: Faith In the Valley and In the Meantime. By Iyanla Vanzant Esp. the first book! Very helpful in ridding your life of pbms. steering from relationships. Please buy it!! When you read this book it talks about all types of relationships and it will help you move on! Trust me! It worked for 2 people I referred the book to.
2007-01-02 01:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by sexy c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a nice situation to be in because you love someone, are looking at having a future with them then all of a sudden that's gone.
The most important thing to remember is that you don't need that person! You lived your life before without them and you now need to start doing that again, as disappointing as it is. Look to the future, you are you and you don't need anyone else to be you.
To love and to be loved is great. You will, I'm sure, find that again. Look at it like this, this one hasn't worked out. But it could open doors for another relationship that you will be very happy in.
2007-01-02 02:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by Pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, because I am stuck in the same dilema. And it seems the never ending thoughts of her never seem to escape my mind and those feelings that you have always find ways to resurface. I too am friends with my ex, and its hard. It takes A LOT of time, and even then it doesn't completely go away. The only way that is proven to work is to distance yourself. Although sometimes it makes things worse, because in my case I tried no to speak to her, but I always go back. I don't know if you have ever tried to remove yourself from being such good friends with him, but sometimes its better just to walk away. No matter how hard it may be.
2007-01-02 01:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by OPTIMUS DIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember GOD works in mysterious ways there is a reason your not a couple any more there is someone else out there that was meant for you just keep being his friend good friends are hard to find it was his lost anyway and time heals everything a broken heart needs alot of time and good friends for support email me anytime if you need some one to talk too wite76chick@yahoo.com hope u feel better soon we have all had our share of a broken heart it hurts
2007-01-02 04:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still being good friends is your mistake. You should of had a clean break you need to get him out of your system. Maybe you should move away and get a change of scenery. Try a singles bar or something you might be able to pull a bloke then.
2007-01-02 01:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by fostermark_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop having contact with him even if only for a short time, you need to allow your heart and mind to heal in order to move on, sorry but thats the only way! Good Luck with it, it isnt always easy!
2007-01-02 01:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by The Weird One! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out there and have fun
re discover urself
clean out all of the stuff tat reminds u of him
go shoppin take up salsa lessons
enjoy life
its 2 short to be stressin over smething that doesnt exist nemore
move on!
have fun!
2007-01-02 01:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by YabbaJabba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to start dating! Time heals, but you need to fill up your down time, so your not missing your old partner
2007-01-02 01:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋