He seems to always say things to me (personal things) in an indirect manner, and i always seem to realize later as towhat he said,orsome times at the time, but i dont like beingrude, meaning hewill give an eg: of someone in a situation:
"I",or he will say "This guy i know/met" seems to have a problemhecant hold onto women"
"I" ,or he will say "This guy i know/met" is stupid because he cant use a knife and fork (and will make fun) etc,
The fact he does it infront of other people really pisses me off, how do you deal with such weak people,as beforeit never used to get to me, but now, i need to deal with this?
How would you deal with him?
and yes ,if i confront him, he will deny and lie, as he is a liar!
These characteristics seem women like to me,
please give me some help, he seems to be interested in more in my personal life than me!
never said anything about this guy,
Shall i get a bodybag?
or Shall i play playdumb(like normal)?
How would you dealwith him?
thanks advance
2007-01-02 01:36:21 · 14 answers · asked by jam 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Bullies like him are very insecure. It makes them feel powerful to have such an effect on people. You should give as good as you get, and in public too. But once you've made your point, stop. Otherwise you'll be as bad as he is.
2007-01-02 02:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Divine ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have to be around him? Because you can start with that ignore his visits and his calls. let him go into the voicemail. also he is making fun of how you eat with your fork? Try to correct it if it's true and later for him. Also does he have any faults besides this one? If so point them out DIRECTLY to him! Don't get a bodybag. LOL at this rate he will bury himself! I have annoying cousins too. And I cut them off! One knows exactly how I feel about her, I didn't come to her wedding and neither did my sister. She felt kind of stupid to see only our parents there representing our family! (smile) Ignore him and stay away from him and don't bother explaining to him when he ask. LET HIM FIGURE IT OUT.
2007-01-02 01:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by sexy c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, your cousin sounds pretty lame, so I wouldn't sweat it. Some people don't like theirselves so they put down others to make theirselves feel better. And just because he is a family member dosen't mean you haft to associate with him...I mean if he's rude and lies, why would you want to. Life is to short to waste it with people like that, spend time with people that respect you. If you want to confront him...then do it in private, and try to use a positive tone...For example, you can say, Cuz I really like hanging out with you...but I mean your jokes about me are kind of harsh and I really would appreciate it if you didn't do it. Then if he dosen't stop ....move on.
2007-01-02 01:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by angelistic_flirt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him when you two are alone. Tell him you do not appreciate his comments and ask him, nicely, to stop. If he stops then you know he was not intending to hurt you.
If he does not stop; then do not go around him and try to avoid him. He will have known what he was doing and it's just harassment at that point.
2007-01-02 01:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your cousin is either very inscure or just a jurk try tellin him how you feel and ask him to stop doin what it is that makes you feel that way or you'll stop talkin to him... or you could just punch him and tell him to stop bein a jurk the next time he dose it... me i did both and dont talk to that cousin any more and hes not so much of jurk any more either
2007-01-02 02:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by nat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if that is simply his way of dealing with things.... he may be shy. If you object to it, keep different company. Is there any reason you must know him? Find different things to do. That way you will not be free to associate with him.
2007-01-02 01:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what he does that gets to you. If he's a real friend (cousin), he will change. Give him that chance then see if he changes or not.
2007-01-02 02:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanging out with him!
2007-01-02 01:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pinch his ears!
2007-01-02 02:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he think he can run ur life or wot???
2007-01-02 01:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋