i live in london as a first year uni student. parents live abroad. so i screwed up financially in th first 3 months of uni...my dads money....he has brought down th roof on me coz of it...and now he says that when i start uni again in a few days n go back to london i will have all these restrictions lik he will be monitoring when i go n come back home etc...altho he is in a diff continent..also, he tells me tht im in uni for one purpose = to study. to go to uni and to come hme frm uni directly and to sit at home and study....
whats th deal? im turning 19..shoudlnt i have rights? im female btw
2007-01-02 01:30:28 · 14 answers · asked by Betty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
btw he wont even let me get ajob to help out so whats th deal with that even? im blocked in every way poss
2007-01-02 01:51:42 · update #1
I THINK YOU SHOULD JUST REST FOR A WHILE. I MEAN FROM EVERYTHING ELSE BUT SCHOOL. JUST TEMPORARY, UNTIL YOU SHOW YOUR PARENTS THAT YOU CAN TAKE RESPONSIBILITIES. ONCE YOU GAIN BACK THEIR TRUST, THINGS WILL CHANGE. JUST MAKE SURE THAT ONCE YOU START GOING OUT AND STUFF, DO IT WIT MODERATION! OF COURSE U HAVE RIGHTS, EVERYBODY DOES. BUT YOUR PARENTS ARE STILL SUPPORTING YOU FINANCIALLY, SO YOU HAVE TO PLAY BY THEIR RULES. ANOTHER THING YOU CAN DO IS FIND YOURSELF A JOB, EVEN A PART-TIME. THAT WAY, THE MONEY YOU EARN, YOU CAN SPEND FOR FUN. I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS TO BE 19! YOU WANT TO GO OUT WITH FRIENDS, TO HAVE FUN! LONDON IS A BIG CITY AND THERE'S A LOT TO DO THERE. JUST TAKE IT EASY FROM NOW ON, APOLOGIZE TO YOUR PARENTS. TELL THEM THAT YOU MADE A MISTAKE, COS YOU WERE ON YOUR OWN IN A NEW EXCITING PLACE AND SO ON. THEY WILL UNDERSTAND. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-02 01:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have rights but you have shown them that you can't manage the freedom they gave you. As a result of your lack of focus they feel they need to redirect you. You are sounding selfish and spoiled. How can you waste money that's not even yours and think things are gonna stay the way that you want them. Start acting grown up. That does not mean just doing what you want but also making decisions based on whats right and not or whats most popular.
Get some responsibility about yourself and realize this is no game. That wasn't monopoly money it was money that you father worked hard for. Honor his dedication to you by getting things back on track and earning his trust back.
Remember it is harder to earn trust than to get it back. I say that because when you have someones trust make sure you keep it.
Don't worry with a bit of hard work you will get your freedom back!
2007-01-02 01:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you will have something to say when you will start using your brain instead of your puszy.. Get a f@cking job then do whatever you want.Learn what it means to really earn you money not spending someone else's..And btw, do you know your parents pay to study not f@ck around so their lil "princess" will have a better life...geez...Start talking about rights when you understand the obligations that comes with rights aswell..
2007-01-02 01:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by Zbenguici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have the right to do what u want, ur dad has the right to completely cut u off financially now ur 19. cost of living in london is frigging high.
ur choice whether to go with dad and money or freedom and loans and looking for a job.
2007-01-02 01:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by implosion13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of those vast quantity of solutions... dude you're very youthful. do not say that "i'm a student so i do not get time for something". you've for all time. eat regardless of you opt for to. basically bypass outdoors in evening and play some outside video games. mainly football, Badminton, Cricket etc etc. Play as a lot as you may. Play football each and each day for an hour or 2 and also you'll see the differences.
2016-10-16 23:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be 19 and are old enough to make your own decisions but if your parents are paying for school- then they have the right to tell you what to do.
If you want to do your own thing then get job and put yourself through school. School is expensive and parents don't like you wasting their hard earned money.
My parents couldn't afford to send me to school- wish they could have- my grades weren't perfect enough for a scholarship- wish I could have afforded to put myself through school, but getting a decent paying job at 18 with no experience is next to impossible.
I don't have children but if I did I would certainly do the same thing your parents did.
2007-01-02 01:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by shambuca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if they're footing the bill for you to attend uni, well then you're still benefitting from them you have to give up something.
You want independence than show it and pave your own way ... some aren't as fortunate to have a bank roll.
2007-01-02 01:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You screwed up with your own parents who loved, supported, and trusted you. And THEY are being unfair? You gave up your rights when you let them down. Take responsiblities for your actions and grow up. And YES..you are supposed to be studying and getting a carreer, whiner.
2007-01-02 01:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should have rights. Sit down with your parents and talk it out. I'm sure they'll understand. Just come up with compromises. They're just overprotective, don't want you out drinking and partying and getting into difficult/ bad situations.
2007-01-02 01:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are protect they love you and they want to help and it sounds like you messed up so they are keeping a eye on you to keep you safe puls you are messing around with thier money.
yes you should have right though.
2007-01-02 01:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋