My B.F is Arabic I am Hispanic. We love being with each other alot.
But we have differnet point of veiws when it comes to intimacy.
He does not belive in oral sex, I do. I have never slept with him. But this does make me think if I even should. I think that a great sexual relationship with help maintain a great relationship over all.
Is this the main focus of my sexual needs? No. but it is a part of it. He is 27 yrs.old and claims he has never done it because he belives the mouth is ment for eating & speaking only. But then again he is americanized in other ways.(what ever that means) What should I do?
2007-01-02 01:30:21 · 6 answers · asked by jrzy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
The Bible makes no clear mention of oral sex at all. Therefore, it is difficult to produce an official biblical position. Nevertheless, based on the information that follows oral sex is not sinful and that it is permissible only within the bonds of marriage between a husband and wife.
The book Song of Solomon is a love poem between a husband and wife. This book is seen in two senses: physical love and a description of God's love for His church. Either way, the book definitely encourages a husband and wife to enjoy the sexual pleasures of one another. It is in this beautiful book that two scriptures appear which may shed light on the issue of oral sex. Let's take a look.
Song 2:3, "Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, and his fruit was sweet to my taste."
Song 4:16, "Awake, O north wind, and come, wind of the south; make my garden breathe out fragrance. Let its spices be wafted abroad. May my beloved come into his garden and eat its choice fruits!”
Notice in Song 2:3 that it says, "...and his fruit was sweet to my taste." Obviously this involves very intimate experience. Tasting one another can have a wide variety of applications. It appears that this is a veiled way of alluding to oral sex. Furthermore, if we look at Song 7:7 we read, “I said, ‘I will climb the palm tree. I will take hold of its fruit stalks.’ Oh, may your breasts be like clusters of the vine." Apparently, fondling of the breasts is meant here. If such enjoyment of the body is intended, and since tasting (which involves the mouth) is part of that expression, it would seem safe to say that oral sex is permissible.
What does it mean to eat the choice fruits of his garden in 4:16? She is saying that she is "his garden" and that she desires that he eat of her fruit.
The poetic use of metaphors in describing the physical relationship is sometimes hard to fully apprehend, but it seems obvious from the context that intimate sexual union is implied.
"The beloved’s request that the winds blow on her garden, that is, herself (cf. vv. 12, 15) was a delicate, poetically beautiful invitation to her lover to fully possess her (come into her). She wished to be his with her charms as available as fruit on a tree."1
Therefore, oral sex is permissible between a husband and wife.
2007-01-02 01:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is most likely that it is against his religious beliefs. If that is the case--or even if he is just uncomfortable with it--you shouldn't try to pressure him into it. All sexual acts need to be consensual by both parties; if one person feels pressured into doing something, or as though it is immoral, the entire relationship will be destroyed. It's better to accept that, while you are with him, oral sex isn't an option.
2007-01-02 01:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that sexual compatibility is important in a relationship so you have to decide if you can be happy and fulfilled by him. If not, and he's not willing to do what you need then eventually this will become an issue. Only you can make that decision.
2007-01-02 01:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you get more involved please check into other matters also. not saying it can't work but thier beliefs are very different. ever seen that movie not without my daughter, kinda scary. if it's something you truly like maybe talk to him more and get him use to it. good luck.
2007-01-02 01:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be against his religous beliefs or maybe their culture teaches against that
2007-01-02 01:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Montecar3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know that you have different beliefs so you need to respect that.......
2007-01-02 01:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by browneyedonna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋