Its been two years and the boyfriend has been let go two years ago, but now my sister is pressuring me to forgive her daugter who is the worst piece of crap ever. My sister is the greatest and most moral person around, but god only knows why he sent her a tramp for a daughter. Her daughter was living with her husband and child when she began cheating with my livin boyfriend. This is not the first time she has tried to clean up the garbage in the family, she also did it to another one of my nieces with her ex boyfriend. Now my sister has an attitude with me because I have no intentions in slightest to ever accept the tramp as my niece again not today not ever. For some reason I think family members are expecting me to let by gones be by gones and they are totally wrong, she is just a disgusting pig to me. I hate the thought of having to cut my sister out of my life because of this but it is becoming impossible to be around my sister with her attitude.
2007-01-02 01:17:34 · 11 answers · asked by problemC++ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you need to meet somewhere in the middle. i.e Your sister loves her daughter and you still feel hurt for the betrayel, maybe the daughter feels hurt as well.
Explain your feelings rather than the anger and you will be able to come to a solution.
2007-01-02 01:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by fizz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your sister should try to be understanding of your feelings. And instead of trying to get you to forgive her daughter, she should focus on the relationship that you and her have. If you can't forgive your niece, then tell your sister so. And let her know that if you did it would be a long, long time before you would ever trust her and be able to put it behind. From the way it sounds, your sister is familiar with her daughters behavior and doesn't really see much wrong with it, or maybe she doesn't want to accept the way she really is. Go with your gut, and do what is best for you.
2007-01-02 01:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by missm43050 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got a neice like that. I try to get along with my brother who I think is similar.
I have found some of the nicest people make some of the worst parents because they want to get along and try to be friends with their kids. I really feel like childrent need an adult and a parent, not a friend.
This is one of those times you should lay a guilt trip on your sister and tell her if her daughter will apologize correctly and act like she is genuinely sorry, and explain why she hurt you the way she did, with no lame excuses like "he came onto me", that you may be able to forgive her. Express how badly she hurt you (even if it isn't quite so.) Really give you sister a dose of how much she hurt you. Run out of the room with a tear in your eye.
What is happening right now is you are angry and all she sees is your anger. I know we don't want to show that we have been hurt.
You are commanded to forgive for your OWN sake, but not forget, nor keep yourself on guard.
2007-01-02 01:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Computer Dr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont forgive her. id want to beat the crap out of her. who cares what your family says, should they be looking into the issue that the neice is a sl*t and working out a resolution for that.
get rid of the boyfriend (which i hope you already have) because once a cheat always a cheat, hes not man enough and he will always give into temptation. your sister should understand that you cant just forgive the lil ho' as she has caused you so much pain.
personaly, she will get what she deserves. whats the point in forgiving her if its not sincere. you can forgive her but it wont make a different.., when your ready you will be able to look her in the eye with out wanting to poke them.
i know what she did was wrong but this is the person she is.. its up to you if you want some one like that around in your life, does she even have any remorse? im getting realy angry so i think il just end this.
just remember dont listen to your family, think about what you want? its not their boyfriends that she screwed so they wouldnt know how it feels
2007-01-02 01:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep confessing that you forgive your niece; but that doesn't mean that you need to trust her around any man of yours!
Don't cut off your sister; it's not her fault!
Just tell your sis, that you'll let her know if and when you could handle being around her daughter!
Just get with your sis and talk about anything, but the niece!
2007-01-02 01:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your sister isn't seeing the whole picture here. Her daughter slept with YOUR boyfriend. Does she seriously expect you to just forget about that? And it sounds like this girl has a history of being slutty...does your sister think this type of behavior is OK? I wouldn't have anything to do with the little skank, either, to tell the truth. And if my sister couldn't understand that, well, it's HER loss.
2007-01-02 01:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do I see a Jerry Springer show in the makings?
2007-01-02 01:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen "Soul Food"? get the butcher knife...j/k... blood is thicker than water, you need to get rid of the boyfriend. A trustworthy man wouldn't do that to you, temptation or not.
2007-01-02 01:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Khandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To err is human to forgive is not my policy.
Does the niece have a boyfriend that you can seduce?
Fight fire with fire.
2007-01-02 01:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I have your niece's phone number?
2007-01-02 01:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋