2007-01-02 01:15:54 · 21 answers · asked by Sweetie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he doesn't beat you, is not a drunk or druggie, and is a kind person, you should put your responsibility to those innocent children ahead of your own wants.
2007-01-02 01:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Love changes over time and couples can get stuck in a rut especially with kids around the whole time. Not everyone has family around but if you do have parents who could take care of the kids for a weekend so that you and your husband have some real adult time together. While we love our children, they do have a habit of becoming so much the focus of our attention that we lose sight of the person who was the reason those children are here. As young as your children are, they do need to know that bedtime is when you and your husband have your time. Find a reliable babysitter so that you can have regular date nights.
Those feelings that you had for your husband may not have disappeared but become submerged by the somewhat boring routine of daily life. Talk to him about how you feel. Communication is so important in a relationship and all relationships take work.
2007-01-02 09:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
With 3 small children you really can't expect things to be like they were before they were born.
With the children you and your husband are more parents than husband and wife. You need to work to get a balance.
I think you still love him...but it's been pushed aside. Talk to him and figure out how you can get at least 1 night a month for just the two of you .
Your children deserve to be bought up by both parents and so you both need to do whatever it takes to make that happen.
A few session in couples therapy sounds in order.
2007-01-02 09:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'd first figure out why I no longer love my husband.If I had a real reason then the reason will reveal it's solution.If time has worn away the magic but he is still a decent man, then I'd get myself some counseling and see what's bothering me before I'd rush out and ruin a relationship that probably makes my kids happy and you can't put a price on kids happiness, so try to find the source of your feelings before acting upon them in any negative way.
2007-01-02 09:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to take a vacation with him, just you and him (NO KIDS), that way you will light up the match again. Make it for a week or for a few days, just spend some fun. Go bowling or to the movies, something you would do if you two were boyfriend and girlfriend, I bet you won't think like this again.
2007-01-02 11:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a normal part of being married. There will be times that you disconnect and reconnect. Before you decide anything drastic, try a vacation (fabulous place if possible) with your husband (sitter for the kids) and see if you can re-connect. Many times, it's just the rush, rush of everything else that causes the disconnect. Good luck!
2007-01-02 09:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Faith 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Is it to the point where the two of you are always fighting? If there is no fighting and you just think you dont "love" him anymore then stick around. All marriages go through that phase- now what you need to do is try and see when it stopped and why and work on it that way.
2007-01-02 09:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Because you have three little kids with him, you need to be in love with him. There are ways to fall in love with your spouse all over again. We have to be willing to do whatever it takes.
2007-01-02 09:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Try counseling and really work at rekindling that old flame for your children's sake!
You can get the love back, but it takes work!
You make the decision that you are going to love him, like you said in your vows!!!
Try new things to spice things up, and no matter what...
You need a date night alone once a week!
I agree...PRAY TOO; like panda said!
2007-01-02 09:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first I would have a conversation with myself to find out the reasons I have fallen out of love with my husband. next I would have a serious conversation with my husband to let him know my findings and then we both try to come up with solutions. you may have to go to counseling but it would be better than splitting up. Good Luck!
2007-01-02 09:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds kinda like me, I still love him because we have been together for 23years. I just remember what we have been through in the past and our kids keep us together, i don't want to hurt our children because of all the problems with the youth today. I do have a friend who i enjoy being with but even that is not a good choice. I chat with a guy friend and just chat, he doesn't expect much, just talking helps. Take Care and Good luck.
2007-01-02 09:25:30 · answer #11 · answered by bluemist 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋