Sorry if this is too "adult", but it's a serious question...
What do you do to keep yourself from coming too fast? Or what can I do to help this?
I'm having a real problem with being left "hanging"...know what I mean? He's finished before I ever get a chance to get started, and it's frustrating!! I'm not even sure how to approach him about this, for fear of hurting his feelings. But something's got to give...
Any tips/advice? During sex, I've asked him to slow down and take his time, but it seems as soon as I say that, he "goes over the edge". So, obviously, that's not working. HELP!!!
2007-01-02 01:12:38 · 24 answers · asked by Heather C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, I should have included more information...
Yes, I have tried masturbating him to climax, and then getting him up for "round 2". However, this never works.
He says he can't go twice in a row (although he used to...??) and he falls asleep immediately.
2007-01-02 01:34:34 · update #1
It does not seem as though he cares whether you come or not. I think that the bigger issue.
But, to answer your question, I usually think of my credit rating while having sex. It keeps me from coming too fast.
2007-01-02 01:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say that I have never had a problem with this, as I can go for hrs, and when I do shoot my load, I can maintain the hard-on and keep going until I blow 2 or 3 more times. If your guy shoots too quickly, try getting some of that cream or spray that is applied to the penis.....its designed to take some of the sensativity away, allowing him to go longer before he blows. Maybe he should go down on you for a while (only like 15 - 30 mins) before he sticks it in you, so that you are more aroused when he enters you.
Good luck, Im glad I dont live those horror stories !
2007-01-02 09:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Falling to pieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Increase his physical activity...the better ohysical shape a fella is in the more actual control he can have.
Double up on the condoms
this is twisted, but inflict a little pain on the boy...get rough...and physical...if he is worry about keeping up or staying unhurt...he will last a little longer...unless he is a saddist.
I do think you can also go to some adult stores or web-sites selling topical cream to kill some of the sensitivity on ol mr. winkie...
ultimately he may have an actual problem...if he is serious about getting this looked at he can talk to his doctor about it...I do believe there are medicines to help with ED and PE.
2007-01-02 09:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by silverback487 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to start off slow and keep that pace. Also, hyper stimulation of the male genital area during foreplay really works well for me. Rub one out for him first. It will give him some time to recover. The second "wood" should last longer HOWEVER, more foreplay is needed.
At least that's what I've started doing with my wife and it's increased by stamina a great deal. No two men are alike, but that technique worked for me.
2007-01-02 09:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey HC, I hear that a start stop method is best for building up endurance. In some men however it is a mental thing he could need to work on. If you havent already, try getting yourself pretty worked up before he gets in you. Otherwise I think simply you are too damn good in bed. Impressive and well kind of exciting ;)
2007-01-02 09:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by finished 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well......I'm gonna go on a limb here and think that possibly age could be a factor. It seems that he is not willing to try things to help you reach your orgams quicker or slow his down.
Helping him through round one and wait for round two hoping that he will last longer is a good suggestion.
There are also "tools" that you have which he can use to help slow his "quick release".
Rythm may halp in the process as well, I think is all about trial and error. See what works for ya.
2007-01-02 09:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by spanishflyin_tx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are some medicines that have a side effect that makes it difficult to ejaculate. Many men who take SSRIs, ( an anti depressant) have the opposite problem they get erect but have to keep pumping for a long time to achieve orgasm, sometimes their partner has one and they get tired and give up. So it is possible to fix your mate, however he would have to see a doctor to get a prescription. I think it unlikely that you could talk him into doing this, but if you do some research on these side effects, you may find its worth a try.
2007-01-02 09:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tim'sSO 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some of these people will tell you to tell him to get a pill, but here we go. you need to let your man know that he's not satisfying you, cause their ego well, is so caveman. let him know gently that you are not getting anything, but frustated and teased. and that if he wants to make you happy, then take care of you first with forplay and also oral sex, don't touch him and then maybe in the end if he would tell you or maybe watch his face and make him stop, or even take control of the whole sex thing and get off of him yourself and act like your changing positions take control of the situtation. you need to be more honest with your partner and he'll really appreciate it. talk openly and sweetly. good luck
2007-01-02 09:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could have an actual problem that is causing him to shoot off quickly or you might not be the person he wants to have sex with so he just finishes real quick and falls asleep.
2007-01-02 10:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talking to a man during sex can cause him to *** faster. I would try to talk to him during a calm moment and see if you two can come to an agreement on what to do to make him hold it longer.
2007-01-02 09:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋