I am going to university this year and I'm going to have to try and make friends during orientation week. I have this fear of rejection or that I may look like a freak if I approach people. Or that they don't really want to talk to me or that I'm wasting their time. Or they already have their friends or group and don't really want me there. There's nothing wrong with my personality or appearance but I have an anxiety disorder and OCD which makes me extra vulnerable. Any suggestions as to how I can approach people without looking like an attention seeker?
2007-01-02 01:02:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Find someone who's alone and walk up and say your new in town and if they aren't busy maybe you could sit and have a little chat.
2007-01-02 01:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost everyone in my family including me struggle with this in some way. I am mostly a hermit I must admit and am on edge most days. Going to a crowded store makes me crazy. Heck there are some days it feels like even people on the internet are too much! The only thing I have found is Xanax. It calms me right down and you are just able to relax or at least not freak out. It has helped alot. You should talk to your doctor about it. It is important to find a doctor who will work with you on this, if yours doesn't or hasn't suggested anything other than the antidepressants you may want to get another opinion. Good luck to you, I hope you find some peace.
2016-03-29 04:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't waste someone's time by talking to them. Social interaction, especially at college, is what life is all about.
Why do you suppose I'm taking the time, and others are taking the time to answer your question? You seem sweet and people want to help you. I admire that you are scared and want to try. I made lots of friends while asking for help. Not everyone will be friendly in a way that you immediately recognize as being willing to embrace you. Keep trying and the right friends for you will develop.
2007-01-02 01:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Benji 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people have S.A.D., so the first thing is to not feel like you're some kind of freak for having this fear/anxiety.
Secondly, you don't "MAKE" friends, people that YOU like will automatically be drawn to you because you're friendly and cool. In order to have friends, you have to be one.
Everyone has skills...some are hidden...that other people will like and admire about you. Don't worry about the people who won't like or reject you. They're just not meant to be. Spend more time accepting the people who do. They're the ones you'll smile at and thank them for being friendly.
2007-01-02 01:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try too hard at orientation. Be friendly, but expect to make friends at orientation. You should try to make friends in class and the dorms. You will share classes with people in the same program for the next couple years. Naturally, you will have like interests. Best bet is to wait to make your friends in classes! Good luck, happy new year!
2007-01-02 02:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by dwarner33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of the same problem you do... yet im a profesional musician that has to interact with people every day... Thats why E-maill and Myspace are good :) I interact with people through there most of the time, and I've made some really cool friends through it :)
2007-01-02 01:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jesus Built My Hotrod 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem when I went to college. The key is to talk yourself out of the anxiety and OCD. You need to convince yourself that it is silly to feel this way. Once you break the ice with a few friends, you will be fine.
2007-01-02 01:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by barter256 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem when I start college back in 92 and my sister told me, "Girl those people aren't thinking about you," and it worked. No one is paying attention to you so do what you have to do and be who you are. If they accept you fine, if not still fine. Stop claiming ailments, you are fine.
2007-01-02 01:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by kyle g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask questions you really need answered and then let the conversation flow from there. if they are in your class ask to exchange #'s
2007-01-02 01:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take ur chance,don't be afraid of rejection,I'm sure u'll make friends!!!GOOD LUCK!DON"T WORRY
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