should I be mad at my girlfriend for having sex with someone else (during a break)?

Question

3 months ago I asked my gf for time apart. things were moving too fast, and we were getting serious. She was very upset, but I insisted and didnt see her for a month. I realized how much I loved and I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, and she was dating someone else. She kept dating him, but I kept asking her back for about 1 week. She eventually forgave me and we are back and serious again. Recently I found out that she did not have sex with the other guy until the last night before she came back to me. I think she wanted to experience it, but I also wonder if it was a way to get back at me. She told him she would be going back to me, so that night he got the most out of it, and she admits they did it almost all night, three tim. We have talked a lot, about how she was hurt, but also about how she enjoyed the sex, which she tells me she did. we are back in love but I am a bit jealous. I know I gave her the freedom, but still I wish she hadnt used it.

Answer 1

I can understand why you are less than thrilled about what she did but you cant really hold it against her. It was youre decision to take a break and you now need to deal with the consequences.

You need to decide if you can "forgive and forget". If you cant the relationship will never work. If you constantly bring itup or throw it in her face you will just drive her away. If you decide to move on with her than you truely need to let it go. If you think that you can never forget about what happened then this relationship will never last. The decision is up to you now, if you really love this girl decide to move past it.