people keep saying what would you do if your child was gay!?

Question

i would be sad disapointed and feel that i would have failed in my role as a mother it would not change my opinion that i feel its wrong would drugs be ok or smoking if my child did them no

i did'nt say i would'nt love them i would de disapointed

in answer to some people i think homosexuality is unnatural and evil

in answer to some people i think homosexuality is unnatural and evil

Answer 1

It has nothing to do with being a good Mother. I can assure you of that. Should your son turn out to be Gay , don't turn against him. He is born that way.Being gay does not mean that he is going to be a bad person etc he will always be your son and you should love him and treat him as such. Show him loads of love and for Gods sake dont kick him out of the house. The poor guy will already be mixed up and scared to come out. Please treat him with respect and just love love love him.:)))

Answer 2

Your not a bad mother for being against homosexuality and it is your opinion don't let people tell you that your wrong. However open mindedness is the key. If your child does turn out be gay, lesbian or biisexual then this is their dicesion and as a parent you would have to support them throughout. There is not point disowning a child for those reasons because then that would make you a bad mother. Acceptance is the only way really because surely it is better for the child to grow up being who they are than being something someone else wants them to be. If your child does turn out to be that way inclined they are still the same person you know and love but you are by no means a bad mother.

Answer 3

I'm bisexual and in a relationship with a woman after being married for 16 years. My folks were not thrilled so I can understand how you feel. However, if it would make you stop loving your child then you have failed in your role as a mother. And the fact that you compare it to smoking and drugs prove that you have no idea what being gay really is. It's not a perversion or a choice. Would you stop loving your child? Would you disown them? Would you rather they be in a straight relationship where they don't love their significant other or even worse, their spouse? If any of those questions are yes, then I hope for your sake that your child is straight. If not, they may just cut you out of their life. Then again, it sounds like you wouldn't care anyway.

Answer 4

You stupid, narrow minded woman. You do not deserve to have children if your mind is not open to all possibilities. What if your child was born with a major deformaty. Aint **** all you can do about that either, you should just be lucky that you have the great gift of giving birth and many people are not as blessed as you are. If it was at all possible I would wish that the high almighty God, could bless more worthy people with the gift of life, who would appreciate the child for whoever and whatever he or she was.

And you know what YES you have failed as a mother to not stand by your child, even though he or she has yet to say to your face the he/she is gay. It was just a question, but you have already shown by your answer to your own question, that you would be disappointed.

Get a life and try and make your childs one a better one. There is already to much **** going on in this world, and you wanna worry about that????

I know I will not get best answer, but thanks for the two and the chance to voice my opinions

Gary Wary

Answer 5

I am soooooooooooo glad I'm not your kid.

Open your eyes sweetheart, 'cause I hate to break it to you but you sound like a moron, blindly following the teeming millions.

What the hell does drugs or smoking have to do with anything? You choose to do drugs. You don't choose to be gay.

You have failed in your role as a mother if you are sad and disappointed because your child doesn't turn out to be your idea of perfect.

For the sake of the future, I sincerely hope you don't have children.

Answer 6

I would love and support my child's choice to make their own choice about who they choose to love.

I don't understand the failure part. Only to some degree are you responsible for how your child is born, everything else is nature. And the disappointment, disappointed at what? Most people are happy enough to have a child with all it's fingers, toes and no major physical problems. The fact that you child is not a carbon copy of you (they never are) should be a reason for happiness, it means they will be an individual.

Answer 7

This is your 3rd question in a row on the same subject. On the other 2, the overwhelming consensus is that most people disagreed with your viewpoint. Your latest question proves to me at least, that you have a closed mind on the subject and that you are not going to stop until someone agrees with you.
Nature makes people gay, not upbringing, or choice: how could that possibly make you feel a failure as a mother. You would only fail as a mother if you did not love your child simply because he/she was gay.

Answer 8

From what I understand being gay is not a choice. I know a young man who I have known since he was born. When he was very young everyone but his parents said he was gay. Well he grew up and is gay.Drugs and smoking as well as all other vices are chosen. You don't have to do drugs, smoke... That stuff is mostly started out of peer pressure. If a child is gay that isn't the parents fault. They are not failures. A child should receive unconditional love from his/her parents.

Answer 9

By the time you found out it would be too late since he or she would have been born that way. I feel sorry for him/her if they have you as a mother since as you consider homosexuality to be evil you would not be supportive at the one time your son/daughter needs you. He/she would no doubt have to hide their feelings and find life very hard to deal with. If you hate gays so why put questions on an LGBT section?

Answer 10

Children are in a world where they tend to do whatever they think is right,parents should be careful this days regarding the up-bringing of their children.I believe every parent would prefer their child to be ''Gay than a armed robber''.My opinion is whatever a child comes up with this days should be dealt with sensibly as long as he or she is not a menace to the society