My fiance is 52 and has lost his sex drive, how does this effect men emotionally?

Question

I have found that he is talking to younger women online and at work, I don't think he is having relations with anyone but I am not sure. Its like he is looking for someone to bring his manhood back and I am afraid this could ruin our relationship. I have talked to him and he insist he isn't seeing anyone else but text on his cell, receipts I have found and the history on his computer suggest he may be or is thinking about it. I don't know what else to do.

Answer 1

Very powerfully, he needs to know he is loved and desirable. Medications are wonderful, especially Cialis.

Answer 2

Umm, obviously you should hold off until he feels like it. Ask him to tell you when. So, 2 years...I read that the first two years of a relationship are "the most" firey, and then, of course, it dies down just a bit. Things neutralize. But as long as the love is still there, it's no danger to the success of the relationship. What can you do to bring it back? Nothing. It's his sex drive, not yours. He probably can't help it -- you can't stay enthusiastic forever. If he wants it to come back, it might come back subconsciously, once you both stop pressing each other for it and focus on other things between you. Like how he's accidentally become a father! This relationship could seriously go downhill if it is built upon such superficial factors. Sex is only an aspect of your intimate relationship. You have to take care of the whole picture for its individual parts to work. So for your relationship to last, you need to build it up on more than just sex. O_o From your question, I can infer that you probably don't. (If you do, ignore my answer ^^;) You can be like a friend, you know. Don't you have other 'fun' things to share together? I mean, that's how it works for successful marriages (since you are fiancés, I assume you've been planning all the things that go with marriage, eh?). Couples learn to be friends AND lovers. Otherwise, what's the point? Bang anybody you want. And that's just what he did.

Answer 3

I'm a 47 year-old guy and will be totally honest with you. If your fiancee is chasing younger women online and at work you'd better wake up and smell the coffee before you say "I do"! Your husband-to-be is behaving childishly -- what makes you think he will behave any differently after you're married? Let me put it in perspective this way: I'm single, approaching 50, and have absolutely NO desire to chase women who are substantially younger than me. Why? Because, like most sane men, I'm not interested in reliving my younger years by marrying a gal who is immature and has limited life's experiences. While physical attraction is important, men our age generally look for maturity, stability, and the young-at-heart.

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Answer 4

Men are simple, don't over analysed.
He sounds like his bored so it's probably time to spice things up.
Remember, men are either on or not.
There is a difference and wisdom for women comes from knowing the difference.

Answer 5

I am 45 years of age... YES, men can experience changes in their libido or sex drive. I suggest changing things up a little bit. Does he usually take control? If so, then YOU take control? Sensual massage? Perineal massage on him? Try it... take your time.. light some candles... Just some ideas! Sometimes I wish my drive would decrease... LOL

Answer 6

It effects them very very much! some are unable to take the medicines for this due to other medical conditions and then the other options seem like would "kill" the moment by time you put them on (just a thought), implants are expensive for most to get..just give him support and snuggle alot and perhaps that will help.

Answer 7

you can only trust that he is not.