Do you try and make lifestyle changes but always fail because of your freinds.
What I mean is, say for example that you do not want to waste your money anymore on going out often.so you let your freinds know.
However, they try and come up with lots of ways of spending your money.
this happens to me alot and i try and be strong oand stick to my guns but it never works.
already this year I am getting pursueded to go on holiday twice, go out next week to see judge jules, 3 birthdays; I could go on......
2007-01-02 00:13:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A similar situation is occuring with my group of friends. We call ourselves the CSSBB gang (no, we are not gangsters). My friend 2-shoes felt that our group was not 'prgressive', stuck in dull pointless routines like our weekly 2 hour basketball sessions. In short, he felt that we are wasting his time with these activities.
He tried to get away from the group but because we have been good friends for about ten years, understandably some of us were upset.
Its a matter of priorities and freedom. Ideally, your friends should respect you enough to give you the freedom you deserve. At the same time, if they were really your friends, then they should be given priority by you. In 2-shoes case, the matter was resolved peacefully by talking it out, and we as friends respected his decision.
in your case, it seems that your friends don't really understand why you need to save money. Perhaps such a concept is alien to them (as it is to many young people). There are several kinds of friends, those whom you merely have common interests with. Those that have gone through thick and thin, whom you have come to trust, whom you respect and who respect you (a.k.a true friends) And friends who remain so, even though there is no common interest and no real bond, when they should be called acquaintances.
You must REALLY stick to your guns. Else, your friends will never understand your desires. Looking from their point of view, they may ask, "Whats up with this guy, we thought we knew him. Why the sudden high horse." You need to really talk it out again. I believe you know your own friends and situation best, and that any advise here must be taken with a pinch of salt. Still, talk it over again... it helps.
2007-01-02 00:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by norman steve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there are real changes you feel you need to make then your real friends should want to help you with them. It sounds like you have some fun things planned but if it's going to put you back financially then you may have to pick and choose what you are able to do. I think you should stick by your changes and let your friends know that you are serious about these changes. I think once they know that you are serious about it then they will help you out.
2007-01-02 01:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice friends...
You tell them you try to be more carefull with your money and they don't seem to respect that.
However it is not their fault that you can't seem to live up to your words. They obviously know they can get you to spend more money, since you have proven you can't say no. And when you say it, it obviously really means yes.
If you really want to stop spending your money this way, you better try to toughen up a lot.
Or tell your friends to take a hike, when they ask you out for a moneyspending date. They'll be so offended, they won't be back for weeks.
Good luck...
2007-01-02 00:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by StormyWeather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're letting people put monkeys on your back. I know that feeling, as soon as you think you can do something you want, someone comes along and puts a monkey on your back and it keeps fiddling with your glasses.
My advice is refuse the monkeys for a while and do some things you really want to.
2007-01-02 01:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by : 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
poor you. I can image what you're going through. My friends always distract me from my studies. They always come up with ideas of doing something else other than studying, and sometimes it's quite hard to say no, but at the end you just need to stand your ground and make them understand.
2007-01-02 00:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by just_D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand that you're young and all that which is why your mates want to live life to the full but you need to save your money aswell!
i'm not saying that don't spend your money at all, because you should spend a certain amount, but you should save it aswell!
you just need to learn how to speak up and say NO and let your mates know that you mean it!
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-02 00:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by sofia k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get all your friends in the same room so you dont have to repeat your self to muchand explain that you want to start savin for the fucher and tell them you still want to go out and do stuff with them but (maybe just one holiday moveis and clubs once a month and their birthdays) you get my point good luck
2007-01-02 02:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by nat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say no....be stronger and mean it...i too am having the same problem...already people have asked me to go here and there, do this and do that, but my intentions are to save every penny i earn from now on and make a few sacrifices...opening a new bank account today.....you just have to stick to your guns and tell them no
2007-01-02 00:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I!f they are spending YOUR money... stop paying for them!
If because of them you are spending money on urself, and u dont have the guts to say.... make up excuses that you cant go
2007-01-02 02:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by I is I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends know better than to try that peer pressure **** with me and want to spend my money. It will get them no where.
2007-01-02 00:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋