I am so scared. I delivered my baby boy through C/S on August 13 2006. I was on a pill and i really dont know how it happened. The first month i used a pill i was okay and i went to get another consignment for a three month dosage. I am sure i am pregnant for i know my body very well. I dont know what to do. I am working and i dont know how my employers will look at me since i just came back from maternity last November 2006.My husband is travelling to Canada for work for 3 months and he isnt interested for me to keep the baby. I am due to go for Counselling and official testing which i know will be positive. What do i do to convince him since i dont want to abort. Please help me
2007-01-02 00:02:07 · 9 answers · asked by Cecilia D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No doubt, taking care of baby is a hell of job but ur second baby will be the best gift for full life for the first baby as both of them will be having company of each other. You produce now or later, if u hv intention to go for the 2nd, it is better to go ahead with the 2nd now itself
bcz if there is more difference in ages between the two
children, their opinions and ideas will be more different
when they are grown ups. Less in age difference the
better it will be for the two kids, esp. when they are big.
In fact, ur hubby must support u keeping in view the above matters and for meeting this difficult situation, either u quit job for sometime or hire a full time help, which is very important for the welfare of the kid/s and quality life of the family otherwise, frankly, life will be a very tough ateast for six months to one year, upon the arrival of the baby/babies. Initially life is really difficult but after a gap of about six months or so, you really enjoy company of the child, this much I guarantee u. No doubt, when child comes, it brings its own expenses, for which, you shud be mentally ready. Not only this, when child is small, more and more visits to doctors are very common. But this is a part of life if one decides to go for a baby, which brings with it happinesses and pleasures & inner satisfactions for the parents, grand parents, etc. However, you may go for counselling for complete satisfaction. If you decide to continue ur job,
u need to tell everything honestly to take the employer
into confidence but for this u hv to work hard with full
inner confidence & tell employer accept me or reject me.
To increase ur inner confidence, do regularly deep breathing and 30 to 45 minutes fitness regime e.g.walking,
yoga, etc. under ur doctor;s guidance. May God help u
during these difficult times. Take care. Yong Kang.
2007-01-02 01:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by La Kho Kho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This must be so stressful to you right now, I can imagine the worry you must be feeling.
First thing is first though, have you taken a home test yet or waiting for official testing?
Remember, you have only had a baby a few months ago. Are you breastfeeding? if so is it exclusively? have you had your first period since having the baby? If you aren't breastfeeding, or if it isn't exclusively breastfeeding you might be getting your period ... after having a baby menstrual cycles can be thrown right out the window and a lot of the symptoms will appear just like pregnancy symtoms do.
As for convincing your husband ... well, if you are pregnant this is as much your decision too .. if you do not want to abort then say so, talk about the reasons why, look in to information for support that is available and discuss how you can both make this work .. IF you are pregnant having another baby soon is not the end of the world, it is possible, it can be done and isn't as hard as a lot of people can make out. Don't worry what other people think, they can think what they want, this is your life, and if you are happy that is the most important thing.
I hope I didn't ramble on too much
2007-01-02 00:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bridge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your husband its his doing too. It does take two! Its your body and if you want to keep the baby then go for it. I can only imagine how you are feeling tho. I had my son on 10/26 and started the pill 5 weeks after, and had sex 3 days after starting the pill. I was so nervous about becoming pregnant again, it was hard to sleep! I have just got my period and I was so happy! The stress is hard enough with a new baby in the home let alone finding out your pregnant again, so soon. (It does happen) As far as your employer goes, try not to worry about that too much. They can't fire you for having baby's and if your capable of working while pregnant, than its another 9 months before you will have to leave for maternity leave again. Talk to your husband and tell him things happen for a reason, and look on the bright side least your getting it all done at once! hope all is well don't stress too much!
2007-01-02 00:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to convince him, it is your body and your decision. Woman do get pregnant on the pill. It happened, although I say dont stress over it until you know for sure, then just tell him that you cant and wont have an abortion. Don't worry about your employers, they cant fire you for having a child. They have to give you maternity leave. Women have kids all the time and work so, thats not the end of the world but, I wouldnt tell them until you have went for your test at the doctor. As far as your husband, maybe he will come around after you get farther along, he should not ask you to have an abortion or give your child up if you dont want too. If he is then your marriage is in trouble either way you go, so, I say keep the baby and hope he will come around to that idea.
2007-01-02 00:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its the decision of the mother not 2 abort u musnt coz its the feeling of motherhood if u abort u will regret and there is also a saying tht only a wife can persuade her husband well by not telling its unfair tell him tht its was God's wish n he will protect n take care of it n next time b4 confirming ur preg n dont want baby eat a lot of heat giving food best papaya dont go thru this thing again ever ok n abt employers they have no business its ur wish ur life just tell ur husband think its his blood his part too wont he want to c how it looks another just like him or just like u i just hope he does agress just never lose hope tell him all tht u can n how much motherly feeling u have get the fatherly feeling into him again how he felt when n b4 u had ur son get the same eagerness 2 c the kid into him again n most of all assure him u can look after both small kids at any cost after all ur son will be 1yr by then n will walk n talk a bit so u can concentrate a bit more on the new baby also n kids will have company too discuss openly and share ur thoughts with ur husband he will understand i hope wht i said will help u i also wish u shouldnt abort i love babies y kill them when they r there by God's will i mean if u dont want then be careful or eat papaya or something b4 knowing after knowing the pressure of aborting is too heavy to endure n the pain n sorrow if u do unwillingly it wrong in my opinion just make ur husband understand it ok just talk 2 him n discuss all the points i suggested these things help n work.
2007-01-02 00:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your body, your choice. Look at the bright side - you will get the sleepless nights & diaper changes over with sooner rather than waiting to have another kids and then go back to all that after it was done. Yes, the first couple of years having kids so close together will be tough, but you will get through it. I used to babysit for a family whose kids were 13 months apart - they could be a troublesome pair sometimes, but they were unbelievably close, almost as if they were twins.
2007-01-02 00:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body, your choice! You don't have to convince anybody. When your husband went and had sex with you, he knew the possibility. No contraceptive is 100%. Don't be concerned with what your employer or anyone else thinks of you, it is your life and you don't have to justify the choices you make to anyone. I hope the decision is an easy one to make.
P.S. Having two kids so close together will save you a lot of money on clothes, toys, etc.
2007-01-02 00:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that when you're breastfeeding you can't get pregnant again. This isn't true. If you are having unprotected sex there is a chance you could be pregnant. I would go get a test if I were you. Good luck either way :)
2016-05-23 05:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go and abort damn
2007-01-02 04:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Navendu G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋