my lesbian partner knew i had porn on a website so i showed her the website as shes quite open minded.but she went nuts because i had pictures of everyday things on that i had taken with her but nobody was on the picture,also a picture of some conkers she had sent me.she said shes very hurt.last night she said i have no respect.she said shes totally in love with me but needs space.do you think she will end it?
2007-01-01 23:45:41 · 17 answers · asked by lisasbarred 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i think maybe in time she will get over the shock of seeing this website, and as she says she loves you, i think it will be ok.....give her time though
good luck
2007-01-01 23:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by tizzy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in a relationship theres always the risk that you will get dumped.
if she needs time to think you have to give her that, and if she's in love and happy otherwise the chances are that she will work it out in her mind and decide its not that bad. your relationship will then grow stronger.
she needs to understand that you wouldn't have done these things if you knew that she would be hurt. you have to explain that your intention was never to cause her pain and you will never do it again.
be supportive of her and allow her the space she needs... go off and do something alone for a while, see other friends, go for walks or whatever. if theres things you cant say without starting an argument, consider writing her a letter apologising and telling her that you love her, and understand that she needs space to work it out herself.
she'll appreciate your patience. the damage is done now so just try and let the wounds heal.
good luck
2007-01-02 07:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by kosh 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not necessarily, maybe she just needs a bit of time to contemplate whats happened because she feels betrayed by you using those pictures? Sounds like maybe they were quite personal? Take the pictures down and try to prove how sorry you are! Good luck :-)
2007-01-02 07:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Error Child 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you asking these people, the only way you will know what position your in is to ask her and be ready for an answer you may not like, honesty is the best policy, maybe you could try explaining why you put those other pictures on there, the conkers, maybe you liked them so much you wanted to share them with others!
2007-01-02 07:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by J9 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she's a smart woman yes. I would advise you to look up the definition of consent and next relationship, practice it.
You could try apologizing, removing the pictures from your porn site and do the above.
2007-01-02 08:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A picture of some conkers she sent you? Is that a euphemism for something else?
2007-01-02 07:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Little Bo Peep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Falling out over conkers. well thats new, but just give her time to calm down Lisa xx
2007-01-02 14:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Croeso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that hurts,she will mostly,better to give up the idea of self porn ,and respect who u r with,if u r into no string attached relations its different,but with love ,dont think there is much left privacy has been violated.
2007-01-02 07:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by reifguy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think she's over reacting and throwing a hissy fit! You are an adult in your own home and can do what you want.
Sounds like she is trying to emotionally blackmail you into becoming her clone!
Let her get over her hissy fit and stew a little...if she is so shallow a person as you describe....move on!
2007-01-02 07:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by jamand 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not, she said that couse she was shocked maybe she is already get over it by now.but she doesn't want to admit that she overreacted.
2007-01-02 09:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by joyce m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋