Personally, I am able to forgive people, and move on, but sometimes i may want to forget abt the person as well - cause sometimes ive seen that forgiven is forgiven, but if i let the person back into my life it isnt gonna help me move on
thats me - but whats ur take?? what do u do??
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2007-01-01 23:21:09 · 25 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
forgive is possible but to forget its trickier. impression stays.. only time will let it fade. hmm if you let the person back into your life, you must be willing to give your full trust again. if i were you i would tend to be less trusting and more precautious to things that were done and said, wondering if the person has the intention to do what he or she had done before. perhaps what had happened wasn't actually intended? so i would say, follow your intuitions.. i would give the person a chance, i think everyone deserves a chance to change for the better. :)
2007-01-01 23:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by Melody 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I do forgive and forget, but it would take a long time to get over something like a major betrayal. For example, my best friend slept with my husband. I caught them at it, and it ruined my marriage, I lost a home, my cats, my husband, my job etc as I had to move and make a new life for myself elsewhere. I came to a point mentally where I could forgive them, and I do not hold a grudge as my life is a million times better than I could ever have hoped about back then, and they are married and happy together. However, I no longer consider her a friend, as a real friend would not do something like that.
2007-01-01 23:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I'll morph into a She-Hulk and curse, swear, rant, scream, shout, wail, be on a rampage and swear to hate the person from then on.
Then, whenever I'm calm (duration ranges between a day to a year or even longer), I'll think about what has happened and try to rationalise.
If the person (who naturally is at fault, because if I were in the wrong, I won't be the one who's on a rampage) apologises, I'd grudgingly say "Yes, everything's a-okay and fine and dandy" and I'd forget about it (eventually).
But if the person doesn't, I'll say **** off and good riddance to you.
Unless of course, I'm superbly close to the person and can't bear to not have them in my life, I'd make the first move and attempt to patch up the relationship, even if it's not my fault.
So to those who've said I've got a huge ego (mostly, here's to you, Mum), I don't have such a big one :)
2007-01-01 23:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by xxon_23 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both.
With some people i can forgive and forget, but with a few...
Well, you know... The kind that says sorry, but 5 minutes later make the same big fat mistake all over again.
Those people are making the whole forgive & forget kinda hard on me...
2007-01-01 23:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by StormyWeather 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I try To For Give When I can But If I Can't Then I Will Hold Grudges. It Depends On What The Person Did To
2007-01-01 23:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're talking about your ex-boy friend, I think you're hurt, but have a white heart which i respect and admire..
Answering your Question:
I believe Islam teaches us NEVER to HATE or hold grudges..
in case you do not forgive, in judgment day Allah (God) will give you the choise either to forgive the person that harmed or hurt you or own an amazing castel that Allah created for you.. which forces you to forgive..
This is Islam that Allah the Most Mercifull sent for us to follow..
2007-01-01 23:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by Omax 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do forgive and forget but you never let the person get you again. Remember fooled one
let it go fooled twice never forgive the same
person. If they lie they have to lie more to cover up the first one.
2007-01-01 23:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rich goldie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always try to forgive, but something I just can't forget. I try not to but I tend to hold grudges....especially if I've been stabbed in the back by a friend or loved one
2007-01-01 23:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I forgive but if someone really hurts you then you always hold grudges, these people you just can't forget although, you wish you could erase what they did to you, but you can't. It's harder to forget what people did to you and that is what really hurts.
2007-01-01 23:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Faust 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forgiveness should never be mistaken for forgetting.If you forget,you may repeat the same thing.when you forgive some one it doesn't mean every thing is alright and that things remain the same,o-no.It just means that you will not harbor resentment in your heart for the wrong doer,but that does not allow that person access to you in the same manner again.The punishment for betrayal is that the person who is betrayed no longer sees you with the same eyes there fore no longer loving you in the same way.So they lose.
2007-01-01 23:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋