We've been dating seriously for almost a year now and truly love each other. I have no desire to practise any religion at all, as my world view is totally "circular". She loves me and we spend great intimate and other moments together, but her family is now frantically trying to find her a muslim man to marry. They do not know about us.
2007-01-01 22:40:26 · 11 answers · asked by Liquido 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What a tough situation to be in! But I'm afraid the ball isn't in your court on this one (unless you would betray your own convictions by converting to Islam).
If no compromise is possible, then your girlfriend needs to decide which is more important to her in the long run: her relationship with you, or her relationship with her family.
2007-01-02 05:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol im in the opposite predicament-im a Muslim dating a christian guy and he still hasnt met my parents yet because of what u said-u introduce the guy ur gonna marry not the guy ur dating, etc. And we have talked about getting married and intend on doing it once we're financially stable, but in the mean time we enjoy each other bc we know that once we announce it the road will get bumpy. i'm sure the mom knows, but its not the mom u should be worried about, it's the dad. I'm sure your boyfriend loves you and wants to marry you, but he wants to be careful about the entire situation to make sure that his parents love you and accept you when they are told and that there's a certain level of honesty and communication. In the mean time, continue warming up to his mom-she could be a great ally, especially bc she was a christian before and married a muslim. It's just going to take time-win over his family so that by the time everything is official, things will go over a lot smoother and the entire family on both sides will be thrilled-as they should be:) In response to reema (whose response is a few answers down from mine) -who the heck are you to judge me?? At the very minimum all you have to do to be a muslim is to believe that God is one and that Muhammad is his Prophet(PBUH) -Your talking about hadith? What about, "man kana lahu tharatun men iman"?? How do u know i dont pray? or that this woman's boyfriend doesnt pray? or fast? Why does dating always mean fornicating and kissing and making out? that's not true so stop judging me. You dont KNOW me. What i do is between me and God and i DO pray 5 times a day and i AM a good Muslim and i've done NOTHING wrong. You'd best focus and yourself and be prepared to face God for your OWN sins and quit castrazing others. You are not God.
2016-05-23 05:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loose her and find another woman to get involved with :) It may sound crazy, but you'll end up giving her the worse days in her life by making her feel she needs to choose between the man she loves and the family who have raised her. If she and her whole family are practicing Muslim, then you don't stand a chance against their principals. But to be certain, ask your girlfriend whether she's willing to give up her religion for you, and THAT should answer your question :)
Good luck :)
2007-01-01 23:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Zenithia Victora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is completely disrespecting her family and her religion. She knows she can only marry a Muslim man, and she also knows she is forbidden to spent intimate moments with any man she is not married to. She knows her family will never accept your relationship, and I am sure they suspect something if they are francitally trying to find her a Muslim man to marry.
She knew exactly what the situation was when she got involved with you... It will be hard for both of you and I wish you much luck.
2007-01-02 00:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they can't deal with the truth of your shared love, you may have to either leave her (she may not wish to break ties with her family for you) or encourage her to elope with you.
Its a story as old as time I think, forbidden love. It's sad to see it has to exist still. Both you and her must follow your hearts and not the dictates of parents/religion.
2007-01-01 22:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by karnautrahl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would probably get a better answer if you posted heterosexual questions on a heterosexual forum.
If you are a Lesbian, then your only hope is leave her family. From what I understand about most muslims, she is probably in danger of a forced marriage or worse.
2007-01-02 00:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you can talk to her parents and start a discussion about how love is universal. Once you have them nodding to the idea that love knows no bounds, tell them you're atheist.
Ps. The questions I'm posting aren't showing up! How do I get them to work?
2007-01-01 22:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to confront the issue head on or lose the girlfriend.
2007-01-01 22:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go away from this girl .her family will force you to be Muslim
...........after that your children will be Muslim this what they want
2007-01-02 02:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell them the truth .If her parents can't handle it that's their problem.
2007-01-01 22:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋