My friend left his partner after 15 yrs of marriage he had been unhappy for the last 5 or 6 yrs & only stayed for the kids. He has 2 children 12 & 9. He left about a year ago & gets to see the kids whenever he wants. he even had them for Christmas. However the kids are making him feel guilty and want him to go back home so he is thinking about it. Or thinking he could move next door. I say it is unfair on the ex and the kids to do this. He does not love her and will be giving the kids false hope. I think he has come so far it would be a big mistake to go back now just for the sake of the children. Do you think I am wrong?
2007-01-01 22:14:53 · 6 answers · asked by Tink3rb3ll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the relationship was not working then no he should not move back just for the kids. If he never tried to work on his marriage then the least he can do is try to seek help. He shouldn't move back until the problems are solved. He needs to explain to his kids that it's not their fault he is not with his wife.l He needs to make ever effort to be in the kids lives as much as possible.
2007-01-01 22:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a very similar position before (now 7 years ago) and didn't go back for the kids. I to have my sons whenever I wish and play a massive part in their lives. Do not go back. Life is to short. Be best friends and stay that way for the kids.
2007-01-02 06:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kurt K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids should not have a say so about this and him and the ex need to make that perfectly clear to them. You're right about this.
2007-01-02 07:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does friend mean lover? I suggest that you back away. Even though you've been seeing the guy, it's wrong to get into the way IF he decides to get back with his wife. Did they ever divorce, or are they just living separately? Let the guy decide what he wishes to do, without trying to influence him.
2007-01-02 07:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. The kids need to understand that their parents are not going to get back together and both of them need to sit them down and tell them this together. good luck
2007-01-02 06:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no don't go back move forward.Christmas time always makes it harder for everyone
2007-01-02 06:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋