She moans cos im never always in the mood.
But i dont exactly want sex 24/7!!
Shes fed up cos i wont say how i feel, well she knows i really like her and i care about her. No, i dont love her like she loves me. But maybe in time i will. - she knows this.
Then the other day,
She told me she might not be gay.!!?
She said she lied about being with girls before - she never has been!
and she said she kinda regrets having sex!!
But she doesnt wanna lose me...?
That really hurt me, and how can i stay with someone who doesnt think their gay? wtf?
Now shes been cutting herself, on the arms and legs, she thinks i dont know but i found out from my good friend whos friends with her. she told me even though my gf said dont.
I dont think i can stay with her, but if i tell her this.. what if she does something REALLY BAD...
Im so scared...I have no idea what to do...
I really need some advice...
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2007-01-01 22:07:12 · 11 answers · asked by Alice 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Finish it. You don't need to be messed around. If her friends knew she was self-harming then let them know that this is the course of action you're taking. They're closer to her than you are anyway...
2007-01-01 22:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. She's just looking for attention.
Here's what I think you should do. Yes, break up with her BUT, tell her that you will always be her friend when she needs you. Make sure she knows that no matter what, gay or not, she will always have your shoulder to lean on. This may take a while to work out, and may mean that you won't be able to hook up with anyone for a little while, but overall, it would be worth it to make sure she doesn't do anything drastically stupid. Give her some time and some support, and even if it hurts the hell out of you, let her know that it's ok if she dates someone else, guy or girl. Try to hook her up with someone she seems interested in, who you feel is a good person. (play mommy match-maker! lol)
Also, tell her this cutting crap isn't cool. It's not going to accomplish anything but scar her. From the sounds of it, she's already hurting on the inside, there's no need to show off the pain on the outside. One day she will be the happiest person in the world, and when she looks at those scars will remember the hell she went through, and be grateful that she's alive and happy.
In time, things will better themselves for you and her. Take it slow, and make sure she knows you're there for her no matter what. Since you're not a nympho, (haha) it shouldn't be too hard to consider her confusion for a little while, and don't worry about yourself. If you care about her the way you say, it shouldn't be too hard to pull all this off.
Good luck, and I hope all works out for the better - sooner than later!
;o)
2007-01-02 10:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sweets 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend sounds like she has some extreme mental/emotional problems and needs a therapist badly. As for whether or not you should leave her, stop and take some time to center yourself. The main question is this: do you love her? Aside from any lies, emotional problems, the possibility she may not be gay, etc. Do you love her? Can you see yourself without her?
If the answer is yes, then find a way to make it work. Talk to her and see if you can find common ground, see what's really going on with her. And tell her how you feel. Communication is the most important asset in a good relationship. If the answer is no, that you don't love her, then let her down as gently as you can. No matter how gentle you are, it's going to hurt her. And yes, she may do something really bad, like you said. However, you have to be honest with yourself and with her. I hope you manage to work this out, whichever road you decide. Good luck!
2007-01-02 06:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your girl has some idenity issues but has become somewhat co-dependant on you. Maybe she's just confused abotu the whole situation. Have you talked to her about how you feel regarding all the drama? Be a friend to her instead of just a lover... I hope it works out for the best... whatevr ya"ll decide that is. Good luck.
2007-01-02 06:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she needs help and constant attention. IF you are not willing to put in that kind of time then you can't be held hostage which is what she is doing You can do an intervention, but if you stay she's only going to hurt herself and you as well. She needs serious help and probably should be medicated. The sooner you can extricate yourself from this situation, the sooner you'll be sane and safe!
2007-01-02 06:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you stay with her because you're held captive by her manic depressive mood it won't be a good relationship, you cannot be a prisoner in the relationship for fear of her hurting herself. Get her friend to help her through it and then break up with her. You need to get out of this because it's not working on several levels.
Be nice but be firm, make her realise this is your decision and that it leaves her free to find someone better suited to her.
2007-01-02 06:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by jleslie4585 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only responsible for your own actions. She is responsible for hers and if she hurt herself that is her own doing and you shouldn't feel like it's your fault.
I know it's hard sometimes, but just tell her you need some time to sort out how you feel about this relationship and if you still want to be in it and she needs time to sort out if she wants to be in a same sex relationship. Sometimes the truth hurts.. but its better to be open and honest than not.
Good Luck..
2007-01-02 06:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by *JC* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with her and send her packing. If she wants to start sh*t with you slap her in the face and say get over it. Desperation is one of my most hated human emotions cause I personally think it's pathetic. If your girlfriend cannot accept your emotions than how the hell can she accept your love?
EDIT: Most masochism cases these days are for attention. Don't be fooled by this pathetic attempt at control.
2007-01-02 06:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now before she messes with your head anymore!
2007-01-02 06:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Screamin' Banshee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she does is not your fault or responsibility. If you don't love her you should leave.
2007-01-02 07:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by alphazer0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋