How did it go for you when you told your loved ones you were gay? Did they leave you, except you? I need this info to prepare me. Tell me in detail and dont leave anything out please. Thank You, all of you
2007-01-01 21:50:38 · 9 answers · asked by who is the light of my life?? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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2007-01-02 01:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My parents were very positive. They were sitting in the living room and my mom was reading a Christmas letter from my cousin and his partner. She asked me if I knew if they were a gay couple. This was the perfect opportunity for me to come out. I said yes, and then said, "This is probably a good time to tell you this, I'm gay. My mom responded by saying "you are?" and then she asked how long I knew and how I knew. I told her I had known a long time and that I just knew. She said that she was glad that I shared it with her. My dad was very quiet and didn't say anything. Although, he is a quiet person anyway. I am sure he is okay with it, because he doesn't act any different around me. Later that evening my mom came in to my room and again thanked me for telling her, she said she knew it must have been hard for me and that I could talk to her about it whenever I wanted and that she loved me. Luckily, I have very great and understanding parents.
2007-01-02 17:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its been a year since I have been out to my family. I was very scared of telling them, and it kinda slipped out the first time I told my mom. I was seriously depressed and one day my mom asked me why? So I just told here, my dad was also there. Well they did not accept it and told me to focus on my school work and not think about it too much. They said that it was just a phase and will eventually pass. I was expecting much worse actually, but it did not turn out the way I expected it to be.
I told my siblings last summer, and both of them accepted me. It was probably the hardest thing I have done. Those three words "I am gay." just won't come out my mouth, I sat there for more than half an hour, keeping them in suspense before I finally told them. My brother hugged me and said that he thought I had some life threatening disease or something. My sister said that it didn't matter to her, she still loves me.
I came out to my mom the second time, and she just plain cried as if something inside her was broken. I even told her about my fears of her and my dad abandoning me, but she said that she can't even think about doing such a thing. My dad is still in denial and I doubt he will ever accept it. I have let it go and just try not to bring it up too much. No one in my family really talks about it, we pretend that nothing ever happened.
One thing though, even when I received a negative response initially, it was the best feeling ever. It was like a HUGE rock off my chest. The most liberating feeling ever.
If you are planning on coming out be sure to check the PFLAG website. Unfortunately I didn't know about it but I think it is a great site with a lot of helpful tips. Best of Luck!
www.pflag.org
2007-01-02 17:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sui Generis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They already knew, and were not surprised at all. Some still have a problem with me, but the most important members of my family don't. That is not to say they didn't need to adjust a bit, but with a little time and patience everything turned out. You will find the people closest to, at least for me, will have already prepared themselves because they knew. The length of time varied from couple months to a year, but again only for those that accepted me.
2007-01-02 06:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by foxy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I myself am not gay, but I have several gay friends. Most of them are on great terms with thier families. Only 1 that I know of had a bad experience. Look at it like this, whether gay or straight, you are still the same person... I mean, your sexuality doesnt CHANGE who you are. So why would it change how your family feels about you? Good luck....
2007-01-02 05:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They probably already know!
My friends were fine, and were like 'yeh we always knew'
Even people who had no clue were like, 'wow, really?, thats cool'
I really thought the whole world would hate me, but i was so wrong!
My Mom doesnt know still, but i dont really feel i need to tell her.
She probably already knows. Parents arnt stupid. They know everything. Its scary.
Dont worry about telling people, it will be fine!!
2007-01-02 06:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Alice 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I came out to my mother she was in shock I guess. She tried to blame herself and I told her it wasn't her it was me. She then said she loved me very much no matter what, Then said i get it from my dads side of the family =) . My dad found out the next day and he would not speak to me for over 3 years after that. No matter what I did and come over to visit he completely shut me out of his life. He took it very hard. It took him having a heart attack and me coming to visit him in the hospital for him to finally open back up and he told me he was wrong and he was sorry and he loved me. It was good to hear but so bad that he couldn't come to his senses years before. The rest of the family was fine and no one has given me any problems. I didn't care truly what happened to my family when I came out. I was letting them know who I was so that i didn't keep living the lie. If they took it bad its thier fault not mine. I felt bad when my dad had a heart attack and maybe he was drinking alot more after he found out I was gay... But its not the fact I was gay but the fact what he did after he found out that I was and what he did to himself. I blame it on him. My mother at one point tried to blame me for it all and in a heated arguement I told her that she was fing crazy that I didn't cause my father to be in bad health. He choose to drink more and to eat things that are bad for him and she told me if I never said I was gay he wouldn't have did it. I told her if he was any kind of man he wouldn't had to drink and he could have dealt with life and not hide inside the bottom of a bottle. That shut her up.=) It was rocky for a while but we are all better with each other now. We never where A loving group hug family. I told them when I moved out when I was 17. I am 33 now and don't regret it. They are the ones with regrets and that is something I can live with. Good luck and hope it goes well for you!
2007-01-02 06:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by qcdon30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah like they don't know already. You may be surprised.
2007-01-02 06:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never did, they already knew. Mothers know.
2007-01-02 06:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by Kedar 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋