Being gay is optional?

Question

i´m straight,but i would like to know if being gay is optional,i don´t think it is.

i think if you are born straight or gay you can´t never change that ,you can try to be gay or straight but you can´t change that ,it´s the away you were born and it´s the way you are going to stay.

i wish i was a lesbian,but i can´t change the way i was born.

Answer 1

Some people "decide" that they are going to be gay or bisexual but it never works out. They're only lying to themselves and others. You only are what you truly feel. Some people turn out gay due to past experiences and even genetics, so I say no, it isn't optional. You can't change who you are or decide what you feel. You already know what's right, and that comes from deep down inside.

Answer 2

Nope, it wasn't an "option" I elected to have. I didn't want to be gay as a teenager. I wanted to make it go away anyway I knew how. But alas, gay I was and gay I had to accept.

Being straight wasn't an option either.

Answer 3

You might not like my answer, but yes I do think that it's optional. The Lord created us with freewill. We can choose to walk in His statutes or we can give into every changing wind and end up messed up and confused. The Lord destroyed a city behind homosexuality. It's unnatural. Think about it! Just tellin' it like it is!

Answer 4

Unfortunately it isn't a choice, because I would love to be bisexual, but I'm straight. You are simply what you feel and you can't really change it -- no one can.

Answer 5

You have already answered your question.
You cannot change who you are, so being gay is NOT "optional".

Answer 6

No. You don't chose to be gay or bi. You didn't chose to be straight. I didn't chose to be straight either. But if I could chose I would be bi. But I am not. You are just innately whatever sexuality you are. You just find something attractive to you whether you want it to be or not.

Answer 7

Gay is not optional (alternative lifestyle), it is a choice. Some called it an Identity crisis. However, Let us see what the scriptures says about this;

"For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error." (Romans 1:26,27).

Was gay genetic or learned? - We are hearing more and more that all the failings of man can be traced to some genetic problem we inherited at birth. Radical, fringe, scientists are now proposing that the pre-disposition to commit crime, sexual orientation or wife beating, for example, is determined at conception, while traditional scientists believe that men learn these things.

Most gay would say "God made me that way," is no excuse for sinful conduct. One married man said, "I can't help my adultery, its in my blood, God made me that way". God placed certain desires in mankind for the opposite sex, but He asks man curb his natural desire to have more than one woman and stick solely with the one he married. So even if God did make man with an instinct to sin, we are asked to change. God has made many wonderful promises to us, but we must resist our natural desires. "He has granted to us His precious and magnificent promises, in order that by them you might become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world by lust" [2 Pet 1:4.] Yes, we may be born with a nature that causes us to sin. Yes, God may have made us that way. But we are expected to be born again, become a new creature, just as it says, "Therefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come" [2 Cor 5:17.]

What was the topic? They wanted to find ways of winning more acceptance of gays in the religious community. (I would suggest that once God accepts it, the rest of the religious community will be much easier to win over). This group included Muslims, Jews, Catholics, Quakers, Methodists, Lutherans and Mennonites, but evidently no Christians. The group claimed that "support for gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transexuals has been strong among religious organizations for years and is growing." I do not doubt it. In fact, the pagans used sexual deviancy and prostitution of both heterosexual and homosexual varieties as a part of their religious worship experience in the temple of Diana. I wonder what it would take to convince Jesus that God is the designer of homosexual relationships?

"And (Jesus) answered and said, "Have you not read, that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said,' For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh'? "Consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." (Matthew 19:4-6).

Answer 8

Yeah, like having brown eyes or large feet is optional...

Answer 9

You are right, it's not an option. Like everyone we can only choose to act on our sexual orientation or not. We don't opt for one sexual orientation over another.

Answer 10

no its not optional, and being bi isnt always optional either...their born with it despite what other people say.